General

So, first off, you can be a feeder and a feedee. Mutual gainers get fat together. And some switch between feeder and feedee depending on their partner. You don't have to choose if you don't want to.

As for me, I'm an ex-gainer turned feeder. I've never been a feedee because I hate being fed. Never liked it. (My mom says I started holding my bottle at 1 week old because I didn't like when other people did it, lol.)

I used to be a gainer because I was a super underweight woman who thought she wanted to be fat. But as I gained, I realized I just didn't want to be small and weak. I became a hard gainer and put on 50 lbs of muscle. Once I was finally happy with my body, I lost interest in gaining more.

As for being a feeder, I suppose it comes from my desire to dote on people as well as my desire to dominate. (Mind you, there are subs and doms for bother feeder and feedee as well as more egalitarian roles).

I love feeding my feedee more than I ever loved feeding myself. Seeing him blissed out, growing softer by the day, and knowing that I did that? It's such a thrill and a turn on.

So, you can gain, but you don't have to be fat. This is an option you possess.

Also, I didn't feel insecure about my body. I was a good looking woman even when I was 115 lbs. It's more along the lines that I hated being bony and sickly.

I am aware, but I really was too skinny. I was underweight, prone to getting sick, and wasn't very strong. The smallest size in women's pants were too big for me.

I was never anorexic, but people often thought I was until they saw me eat. It was that bad.

I will say that once I finally slowed my metabolism down (or maybe it slowed itself down) I stopped getting sick as much. I went from getting sick at least once every three months to about once a year.

I also could find clothes that fit me well (I hate belts), and finally got some strength.