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Hi, never really posted anything or known what to but here we go. Apologies in advance for any confusion
I (28,m), Like to think I’m a pretty run of the mill guy as it goes, pretty confident in most aspects of life etc. but I’ve always liked larger women. My gf and ex are both averaged sized. I’ve always had a thing for plus size women if I’m honest but never quite acknowledged it to myself until recently. It’s gradually got more of a thing as I’ve got older and I don’t really know what to do anymore. My gf wouldn’t understand, I know that so talking to her about it would be pointless. In the environment I’m from there is a weird stigma against liking larger people which I don’t get, especially if you’re not particularly large yourself. It’s just a confusing situation and I don’t quite know what to do.
I’m not one for sharing my thoughts on things like this normally however I’m in abit of a predicament and not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated or if anyone has been in this situation, any thoughts would be great. Thanks
Hi, never really posted anything or known what to but here we go. Apologies in advance for any confusion
I (28,m), Like to think I’m a pretty run of the mill guy as it goes, pretty confident in most aspects of life etc. but I’ve always liked larger women. My gf and ex are both averaged sized. I’ve always had a thing for plus size women if I’m honest but never quite acknowledged it to myself until recently. It’s gradually got more of a thing as I’ve got older and I don’t really know what to do anymore. My gf wouldn’t understand, I know that so talking to her about it would be pointless. In the environment I’m from there is a weird stigma against liking larger people which I don’t get, especially if you’re not particularly large yourself. It’s just a confusing situation and I don’t quite know what to do.
I’m not one for sharing my thoughts on things like this normally however I’m in abit of a predicament and not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated or if anyone has been in this situation, any thoughts would be great. Thanks
A relationship where talking to each other is pointless is a relationship that needs work or won't work.
Your account says its existed for 6 years, so I'm sure you won't be surprised to learn that many, if not most, people here live in fairly fatphobic cultures. I can't speak for everyone, but I'm not "out of the closet" as it were about this kink. But just like any kink, it's not something that needs to be shared with the world-only with those with whom you want to be intimate and with whom you intend to put your trust.
I told my partner about this kink--both the aspect of liking larger bodies and the feederism part--and they were understanding and encouraging that I find someone with whom to share this kink since it wasn't something they could indulge.
I say that not to brag, but to explain why I think that at the very least you should be able to tell your girlfriend about your preferences if you seriously think she is someone you can see yourself sharing a life with. Indeed, I'd rather give her the benefit of the doubt because I don't know her for sure; it's very likely that your fear of disclosing these preferences to her is unfounded. Even if she has expressed dislike for larger bodies or shows a rigorous adherence to societal expectations of fitness, many of us merely parrot what we're expected to say in any given situation.
So I have to ask: is there a specific reason why you don't think she would understand? What are the consequences you fear for disclosing your preferences? Will you be happy if these tastes remain in fantasy? Or will you be miserable in any relationship where you aren't even allowed to talk about what you enjoy?
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