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For me it's been like this mutual dance, like two black holes in a spiraling orbit. I liked chubby chicks as a kid but it was a sort of abstract fantasy.

Then I started dating a chubby woman, and we started influencing each other back and forth to extremes.
She was comfortable with her body and loved belly rubs, so I started encouraging her.
So she started getting so fat I wondered if things had gone too far, but she was so happy gaining I accepted how huge she was.
So she got so fat she was ashamed of being super obese and thought she was letting me down.
So I let her know I wanted her to get as fat as possible because it made me possible.
So we've both become so extreme together in stages.

She's gone from "I'm not fat, I'm just curvy!" to "I'm gonna become immobile soon and make you do everything for me, haha!"

And I've gone from thinking feeding was an abstract fantasy, to believing true romance is taking the one you love, fattening so that they can barely move, then taking them on a date so you can make everyone stare at them in awe.

That's also interesting because I feel that super obesity does make people become androgynous. It's almost like a new gender! Guys grow big sagging tits, gals' breasts turn less defined, lose their cleavage and turn into just more rolls of fat. All resting on a gigantic blob of a belly with no waistline. Guys developing cellulite. Genitals impossible to identify from some postures because they've been swallowed up by blubber.

I can't even find bae's vagina when she's standing up. I lift up her huge hanging gut- there's a huge swelling pubic mound. I try to part her gigantic thunder thighs aside, but it's no use. Her womanhood is in there somewhere, but it's become dominated by her own obesity.

Sex: F(at)

I'm sure there as many reasons as there are those of us who like these things. For me I know I was always interested in cartoons of characters getting fat and the like when I was a kid. Weirdly enough, my family, especially my mother has a very negative relationship with weight and being fat. So when I got a little chubby between the ages of about 10-15 I got lots of negative comments. At that time it made me hate my body. I may have partially developed an eating disorder. My mom is bulimic. I went more towards anorexia. Although I never was diagnosed. At around 15 I got sick and lost a lot of weight. It was the result of Crohns disease. Which, along with 4 abdominal surgeries to remove many feet of my intestines, more hospital stays than I can count, has kept me underweight ever since. Except for the few times I had to be on prednisone. But any weight I gained I quickly lost when I stopped the meds.

With all that I started more on the feeder/fa side. My girlfriend now wife was very average weight when we met. But after a few years she did gain some. I then told her that I actually really loved her that way and if she gained more I was cool with it lol. Which she did! Lol. I was never a direct feeder or anything. It was more like let nature have its course.
I did always seem to have thoughts of myself gaining a lot of weight and really liking those thoughts. But the negative reactions from family always popped into my head. I eventually told my wife this and she was fine and happy with it. Saying she would love me just the same no matter what size I was. That I'd actually be cute to her if I had a belly and such. I had a few half attempts to gain that never really took hold because of my crohns disease. Then a couple years ago we moved farther away from family and I figured at my age this was gonna be my one and only time to really try to gain and live some of my life fat. So I went for it, heavy cream and all. Gained about 50lbs with on and off attempts as I've had extra money in the last year and a half about. I plan to keep going and catch up to my wife who is about 300. She is all for it and has very much enjoyed what I've gained so far. It's been a struggle, but I keep trying. Oh wow, you just asked why we are like this and I just rambled on my entire life story lol. Well, hopefully that sheds some light on it all.