Smolgainer:
Hey guys! A very late update, but there is a big development!
So in the end it turned out that we never really talked about it, apart from him mentioning that he liked guys with bellies at some point. We're just friends and nothing is going on between the two of us.
Additionally, he doesn't use grommr that regularly and I wasn't actively looking for him on the app.
HOWEVER, since I now have a few pics of myself (faceless) online, I opened grommr the other day and saw him in my private message (and immediately suffered a heart attack). He just said hi, so I replied hi and yesterday he asked how I was doing.
I genuinely can't tell if he knows who I am and is just playing with me, or if he is utterly clueless.
There is now way I can keep chatting with him and not tell the truth, that just feels so wrong. But guys I am terrified! I've never told anyone in my life about this kink and I really don't know how to manage this whole situation.
I'm thinking about just telling him to request my private folder where there is a face pic of me, but I'm not sure that's a good move.
TLDR: HELP!
This is literally a case of "Bestie, what were you doing at the devil's sacrament?"
He has the same kink as you. You're chill with each other.
There is a chance he's just as terrified as you and is testing the waters. He could possibly just want a friend to share his kink with.
Or he's actually dumb and didn't realize it's you.
I doubt he's playing with you. Doesn't have anything to gain from where I sit.
My advice is to talk to him (platonically) on the app. See what he wants. After that, you can decide if you want yo reveal yourself at all.