Fat experiences

As I mentioned here, I don't mind gaining or loosing weight, depending on my partners likes/dislikes.
My current partner (for some years) likes me fit, and when we met she was also pretty fit... As time went by, she gained quite a bit, but didn't do anything about it except complain (even though she knows I like her better this way) and kept gaining...
Any way, during our summer vacation, we gained some weight. Even though she gained more weight than I did, it made her tease me about it. For some reason, that made me gain more to the point that I am now at my highest weight ever...
Now here comes the interesting part, last night she started caressing my belly and garbed my love handles, which made me wonder if she is enjoying my new fat layer... I am a bit confused now...
Should I gain more, start losing weight or do nothing?

Imma tell you what I tell everyone else.

Talk to your partner.

It is amazing how often this is the necessary advice on these forums here. OP, it doesn’t sound like you have anything to lose, just something else’s to connect with with your partner! Just use your head and if she doesn’t seem to reciprocate don’t press. But you ought to be able to express your sexual preferences to your partner

Mutual belly play is so much fun :-)

So after talking to her about it she said that at the beginning she teased me and grabbed my fat to show me that even though I like her fat/don't mind gaining myself, she doesn't like it and prefers me fit. However since she now gets why I enjoy feeling her fat (since it was nice for her to see the change and feel something different), and because according to her "the feminine body should be soft whereas the male body should be firm, and to incentives me to get back to my fit body she is now willing [and will never will again ] play a game with me, in which she will gain 1 lbs for each 1 Ibs I lose...

If it were me....i would be working my ass off losing weight so I could stuff her silly.

So three weeks into our “deal”, I lost 10 lbs (out of the 26 I gained, since my starting weight) which means that for the first time since we met (or ever) she weighs more than I do. That is true for her weight as of three weeks ago, without the extra weight she put on during these weeks. I don’t think she took this option into consideration or ever thought that was possible, because she refused to get on the scale for her weighing, so I have no idea (and she doesn’t either) how much she weighs as of today.

I told her I will continue to lose weight as she wanted me to (which will probably take me another three weeks or so), but will not hold her for her end of the deal. To be honest, I guess she will continue to steadily gain (even without our deal) as she been doing for the past few years, even though she doesn’t like it and continues to work out regularly...

I am now back at my normal weight, along with my firm abs. While she keeps gaining, unintentionally.
A week ago she told me that she is jealous of how I am all fit and firm while she keeps on gaining (I think it has to do with her change of metabolism...). So I offered for us to workout together, and she gladly excepted my offer.
Since she is all out of shape, I suggested we start with a short walk.
To my pleasure I saw how she struggled to squeeze herself to her new tights. Ladies, why do you think you have to wear tights for a walk and not just any kind of pants? not that I care, on the contrary I love it!
I loved seeing her jiggle as we walked, however she didn't... She even mentioned that it bothered her to feel how she jiggled while we where walking! needless to say she didn't workout since...
What else can I do to make her feel good about her body?! While she knows I prefer her like this

From where I sit, I don't think your partner really knows what she wants. She complains about how unfit she is without doing anything about it. She also has some ... interesting ideas about gender rolls that I think are making it harder for her to decide what she wants. As such, there's only so much you can do.

She knows you find her attractive, and that's good. Keep making sure she knows how sexy you find her. But you also need to make sure she knows you will love her and find her attractive at any size.

You are already helping her get back in shape without pushing her one way or another. If you buy groceries or do the cooking, make sure there are healthy yet tasty options for her. But outside of that, she has to figure out what she wants for herself. You can't help her with that.

Is she finally accepting her gain?!

We are about to leave for our summer vacation when I noticed that she had packed very lightly (unlike her) packing just a few dresses and almost no “regular” clothes... So I had to ask what was the deal?
To my surprise she said that now a days she feels more comfortable wearing dresses due to her growing belly and ass (her exact words!), and that she is planning to buy new and bigger clothes during our vacation since she believes that by the time we get back she wouldn’t be able to fit into most of her pants...
She said it like it was such a natural thing for her to say, that I was shocked! (And really turned on...)
(When I think about it, I did noticed that around the house she started to unbuttoned her jeans more often, or just wear sweats or dresses )