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Does anyone else just feel that they don’t belong here?
I’ve been here a long time, only really spoken to a handful of people in that time.
The last couple of years have seen a lot of health problems and in that time I needed friends, which I don’t have in the physical world, but have only found that I am nothing more than a belly to most.
It is a part of me, not the other way round.
I wonder what I’m doing wrong.

This can be a really dark place sometimes. I’ve sometimes found it hard to find people to just chat to normally. Always open to having a chat if you need a friend

I haven't been here as long as you have. And I am a feeder/fa instead of a feedee. But, I do know a thing or two about being objectified.

I have to say that when it comes to friends, it's quality over quantity. Most people on FF are not here to make friends. They are here to get their rocks off. There are decent, selfless people on here. Unfortunately, a lot of them are driven off the site by toxic members.

Idk if you are doing this, but I also encourage you to seek friends not just on FF.

I’ve been here a long time, during which I’ve taken a few breaks. I can’t say that ever really made a long-term friend here (despite trying). The community is fluid and full of fake profiles. I hope you can find some joy among the real people here.

The problem with me is that I cannot properly launch a convo. If I manage to do, then its fine. I feel something is wrong with me

Well, how do you interact with people?

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the vast majority of active posters here, nor that (with a few exceptions, which typically get called out publicly) anyone is doing anything wrong. People are here for varying reasons, and sometimes there’s not a lot of activity, so a post or shout or (guessing) chat line gets no traction and wilts.



Had that (toxic) experience here middle of last decade, which kept me away long enough that my original account expired and vaporized.

Hopefully with more of us doing our parts to contribute in honorable, civil ways, the percentage of toxic members will decrease. Your high volume of high-quality posts certainly is setting a good example—thanks!



Excellent point. I’ve edged close to true friendships, and some are arguably connections which may someday advance there.

It saddens me to see long-time/familiar members feeling alienated, since i very much personally appreciate your all’s presence and posts.

I’ve felt alienated from most of the world most of the time, and again in recent days and weeks have been seriously considering whether i feel comfortable remaining amongst the living. Physical social spaces as well as virtual ones like here can feel foreign, with no place for me.

In terms of sites in our community, the personalities, interests, and overall focus can and does shift over time. I joined Feabie when it was new, but have never felt comfortable nor welcome there, and rarely participate there. Technically i like the site design of Curvage, but the content feels toxic to me. Dimensions has its regulars, and has been OK at times for me, but other times feels like an old folks’ home with a handful of regulars. FF has issues, but has always felt like home to me.

I may not be a very good connection (much less friend) due to my unreliability being here (or anywhere) as i struggle with personal issues. However when i am here, i strive to treat people with the respect and caring we all deserve (and i’ve had to deal with far more un-health/medical stuff than any one person should).

Hoping y’all stay around, but understanding if you feel the need to go,

))Jiggle((

Well, I am not the best in this. I try to be nice, I try to ask about interests...

Well, I am not the best in this. I try to be nice, I try to ask about interests...


Well, why do you feel like there's something wrong with you? Feel free to PM me if you don't wanna get too public.

Thank you, CuppaJoe.

The subject of alienation and suicide prevention are close enough that the following seems on-topic.

In the mists of last millennium in pre-Internet times (at least for the general public), i had need to call suicide prevention. It was a full 7-digit number, as i recall. Called the number, and they answered appropriately.

They did not take me seriously. They thought i was kidding, and tried to get me off the line.

Yes, it was actual suicide prevention, not a pretender/wrong number. I guess it worked, because the whole experience was so ridiculous and wrong, it stunned me out of my then-crisis.

Since that experience, i do not deal with suicide prevention services.

I’ve gone deep researching minimally painful/maximally successful suicide methods twice: 1991, paper books, public library; and i think it was 2021 springtime, on the WWW. Totally blew me away that i found a site with credible (per my prior research and collected information over the years) information, some new and useful to me. Then again, i was not using Google, but Duck Duck Go.

Here’s the important part: I lack the means to undertake any form of viable self-deliverance. Can’t do it, no matter how much i may want to (and the pain is pretty extreme tonight). Trying and failing is most often far worse in terms of pain and suffering than not trying at all. I know one person in that latter category who’s still alive and has significant permanent harm from the attempt (but i understand why they made the attempt). Decades ago i only somewhat knew someone else—impressive person—who failed on one attempt (and somehow didn’t harm themselves too much), and succeeded on a later attempt. They, and several others who succeeded with one-and-dones, are in a way heroes to me. Their pain was too much, no one could or would help them, so they empowered themselves and made the pain stop.

If i could become a fat femme with sensual subcutaneous fat and/or find sensual/sexual pleasure rather than intermittent pain and illness when i have a too-infrequent orgasm, it would not solve everything but would sure make living far more appealing. It’s very rough being in this community unable to fatten as any gender and barely able to eat anything/sustain basic nutrition and read report after report of the sexual/sensual joys of fatness i’ll never know.

But truly, the fatosphere is all i’ve lived for since around 2010. That’s why it’s an honor to be here amongst you, whether here on FF or elsewhere in the community, and why i’m grateful to be able to make a small contribution doing admin work here.

Best Wishes to us all, to remain amongst the living and find more pleasure than pain in a difficult world and human existence.