For reference, the other post is here: fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts
Maybe you have unreasonable expectations, or ask for too much? I can't be sure but I kind of have that impression.
I did see your other post, and wow, just wow. To be clear, you do have the right to state any preferences and non-negotiable requirements you want. But the longer or more stringent the requirements, the shorter the potential list is. You also have to consider that not everyone who does in fact fulfill the list of requirements and most preferences, will be interested. You also framed your requests in such a way that you'd spend virtually nothing, while the potential suitor has to spend a lot on something very risky.
I also think that maybe you're being impatient? You posted this, less than a day after you posted your other post. Even if there is someone who might be willing to do what you ask, what makes you think that someone will jump in right away?
As a man, I already know that I'm pretty sure I will not even remotely consider the mail order/long distance bride thing for a LOT of reasons, and these are reasons why someone who might consider it, may still be reluctant anyway.
- Catfish / scammers, a common problem with mail-order/overseas/across International borders. But we'll assume that doesn't apply to you.
- What expectation is there, that you'd even get along, much less actually enjoy each other's company?
You just can't be sure. For the same money as the plane ticket, I can go to the bar multiple times and talk to random women there. Even if they all turn out to be a bust, that's okay. I still got good drinks, live music, and talk about whatever silly thing with the regulars there.
- I must also emphasize, that online v. in-person interaction is very, very different. The cost to make an in-person interaction has been made far too high.
This is coming from someone who has been on the Internet for a very long time, and over the years, there are some individuals I first spoke to this way, that I might be willing to meet in person. However, this process took many years and was by no means guaranteed. Oftentimes, meeting someone in person is nothing like the online interaction.
Realistically, I'm unlikely to consider driving more than 2 hours one way, and I really want something within about an hour or so. Money, and especially time flexibility makes this a challenge. But even if I was compelled to travel so far, I'd make arrangements to travel there in person, with the expectation that she will do the same, including paying for whatever transportation arrangements she uses out of her own dime. Much in the same way that with someone local, I expect she'd regularly make the drive to my place, and do so on her own time and dime.
My advice is to either try to find someone local, or if you really do wish to leave El Salvador, to hold off on looking for a relationship until you do so. And, you're 21 years old.. you still have plenty of time.
Also, this post is not a Personals Ad, so I'm moving this to General.
Maybe you have unreasonable expectations, or ask for too much? I can't be sure but I kind of have that impression.
I did see your other post, and wow, just wow. To be clear, you do have the right to state any preferences and non-negotiable requirements you want. But the longer or more stringent the requirements, the shorter the potential list is. You also have to consider that not everyone who does in fact fulfill the list of requirements and most preferences, will be interested. You also framed your requests in such a way that you'd spend virtually nothing, while the potential suitor has to spend a lot on something very risky.
I also think that maybe you're being impatient? You posted this, less than a day after you posted your other post. Even if there is someone who might be willing to do what you ask, what makes you think that someone will jump in right away?
As a man, I already know that I'm pretty sure I will not even remotely consider the mail order/long distance bride thing for a LOT of reasons, and these are reasons why someone who might consider it, may still be reluctant anyway.
- Catfish / scammers, a common problem with mail-order/overseas/across International borders. But we'll assume that doesn't apply to you.
- What expectation is there, that you'd even get along, much less actually enjoy each other's company?
You just can't be sure. For the same money as the plane ticket, I can go to the bar multiple times and talk to random women there. Even if they all turn out to be a bust, that's okay. I still got good drinks, live music, and talk about whatever silly thing with the regulars there.
- I must also emphasize, that online v. in-person interaction is very, very different. The cost to make an in-person interaction has been made far too high.
This is coming from someone who has been on the Internet for a very long time, and over the years, there are some individuals I first spoke to this way, that I might be willing to meet in person. However, this process took many years and was by no means guaranteed. Oftentimes, meeting someone in person is nothing like the online interaction.
Realistically, I'm unlikely to consider driving more than 2 hours one way, and I really want something within about an hour or so. Money, and especially time flexibility makes this a challenge. But even if I was compelled to travel so far, I'd make arrangements to travel there in person, with the expectation that she will do the same, including paying for whatever transportation arrangements she uses out of her own dime. Much in the same way that with someone local, I expect she'd regularly make the drive to my place, and do so on her own time and dime.
My advice is to either try to find someone local, or if you really do wish to leave El Salvador, to hold off on looking for a relationship until you do so. And, you're 21 years old.. you still have plenty of time.
Also, this post is not a Personals Ad, so I'm moving this to General.
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