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Personally, I'm not bothered with women making a girls only club if they want to. Although, I think the objections Munchies raised are all valid.

Bumble has a mechanism for preventing men from messaging first. There are also women-only facebook groups, subreddits, forums, etc. Maybe the safe space you're looking for already exists in some form?

That's not meant to discourage whatever this project is. I'm still not sure what someone is supposed to do on the site, other than feel safe. Is it for discussion, microblogging, networking, dating, or what? Knowing what it's specifically for could change your method of moderating it.

Ditzy isn't really the focus here. No one said they felt safe or unsafe around her.

What happened was *I* said that as a WOC, a very specific group of white people were problematic. Ditzy misunderstood what I said and thought I was attacking white people as a whole and got upset.

She further misunderstood the point of the thread (what would a hypothetical safe space look like) and said all voices should be heard. She also mentioned I should just block people that I find threatening.

Lora Dayton then clarified to Ditzy that I wasn't attacking white people as a whole and what the purpose of this thread is. And the matter was dropped.

That's all this was. A case of misunderstanding and getting upset due to the misunderstanding. No one thought that Ditzy was unsafe to be around.

I suppose it depends on what you are excluding.

I am with you on exclusion based on gender. But, if a person is part of a group that is actively harmful, then excluding them isn't a bad thing.

That being said, screening such people out before they join is probably not feasible.

This thread is more about a hypothetical safe space rather than what a person would do within this safe space. Another thread for another day, perhaps. Not a bad discussion to have, though.

Ngl, your comment dose kinda prove how some males really don't take issues women have and experience seriously, and simply classes them as toxic

Your right, not all men are creeps. But there is a large amount of them and the women here are simply just expressing their experiences and thoughts, and out of all the people who have contributed to this forum thread. Yours comes of the most immature and toxic

The irony of how their username also embodies exactly what we're talking about: person not interested in connecting with us as people, just seeing us as blubber. On point.

Hun, Fantasy Feeder is a safe space for feedists. You are actively particpating in a safe space. Imagine what would happen if a bunch of health nuts or some fat phobic people came in like a wrecking ball?

Chaos

And only *one* user said "no men". It was two posts, and more than one person said it was a bad idea - myself included.

Just popping in to bump this concept. It’s so basic and yet seemingly so difficult to attain. If I want to block someone for being misogynistic, transphobic etc, i want to see them actually, fully blocked. We have the technology!

That's the point actually. To keep discussion moving. To be open to learning new things and understanding where peoples' input comes from. I'm glad you observe the same!

It seems to me like no matter where women go men will follow, and men will make women uncomfortable. So unless you had strict moderation or even some sort of mandatory verification/ or even no messaging at all would resolve it… seems to me like it’s a 1 on 1 and less of a public domain issue because people will support the person being harassed