Gaining

I'm not against it. It's just not for me. I like my body as is.

But I do understand the appeal. There's something romantic about getting fat together.

Pfft. Out there? My guy, you must not be on the internet very much.

Feedism, at it'a core, it pretty tame. Taboo, but tame.

I have always wished that I could find another person to get fatter with. The joy of watching them stuff their big belly as I stuff mine. Rubbing both of our swollen bellies afterward.

Trying to out stuff oneanother sounds kinda hot.

i literally have the same question lmao

I don’t think I’ve seen any behavior that suggests that—at a community level—mutual gaining is taboo. What have you seen? *Why* do you *think* it’s taboo? I ask because I wonder if you might be misinterpreting a different kind of message.

I *have* seen women (both feedees and feeders) who are not interested in mutual gaining communicate their preferences clearly and/or firmly.

While the connection isn’t always stated explicitly (although sometimes it is), I imagine this is usually in response to boundary/consent violations by men who try to get uninterested women to engage in mutual gaining.

I wouldn't call it divisive, it's merely a case of compatibility and open, honest communication.

If you're into mutual gaining and your partner has very clearly stated that they aren't then it's either off the table or an indication that they aren't the right person for you. Pressuring someone into doing something they don't want to just because it makes you hot isn't okay, and using sneaky tactics to trick or sabotage a partner into gaining with you is down right wrong.

If you're both into mutal gaining and you've talked about it and decided to explore it, awesome. Hopefully it's something both enjoy and have fun with. But if one of you decide you've had enough, or is not enjoying it as much as you thought you would and want to stop, that needs to be respected.

I suspect a lot of the "divisiveness" you mentioned is coming from people that have had someone try to trick or oressure them into mutal gaining when they weren't into it or weren't ready to explore it. Again, open, honest communication is key.