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Whitemalehunk:
I stopped going to the gym to pursue gaining but because I was my friends lift to the gym he’s now not able to go. And with all my new snacks and fatty foods lining my fridge he’s packing on the weight too. He lived with me as a roommate for five years but over the past year he’s lost his six pack with me and I feel guilty.
He’s never complained about the weight but I feel like I should’ve already offered to talrijk to the gym.

Anyone got thoughts on this subject or and experiences?.

MickRidem:
He's an adult, and is responsible for his own decisions. If he wants to go to the gym, he can find a way to get there. (Or find home workouts) He chooses what he eats, and how much.

Sure you've made it easier, but he makes his own choices. I wouldn't worry about it. 👍

CuppaJoe:
We tend to be influenced by the people closest to us in life. If you are constantly grazing and keeping high-cal food on hand, you are bound to have some influence on him.

That said - it's influence, not forced coercion. I agree with the others - he makes his own choices as an adult.

If you have lustful feelings or intentions for your roommate, though, that lead you to intentionally push him in a direction opposite of what he wants or desires for your own selfish gain, then you have crossed the line and are now acting creepy and manipulative and SHOULD feel guilty.

I would do what so many people encourage posters to do in relationship situations when they are uncertain: talk about it.

Ask him directly if he's okay with your shared eating patterns. Get a whole.bunch of your favorite trash food and then ask him, "Are you okay with me bringing this stuff in all the time? I freakin' love it, but I wanted to check with you if you're okay with me being such a bad influence all the time."

Then you'll know and can either let go of your guilt and get fat with a buddy, or you know and can figure out how to keep your lifestyle without feeling guilty about him.

Whitemalehunk:
I stopped going to the gym to pursue gaining but because I was my friends lift to the gym he’s now not able to go. And with all my new snacks and fatty foods lining my fridge he’s packing on the weight too. He lived with me as a roommate for five years but over the past year he’s lost his six pack with me and I feel guilty.
He’s never complained about the weight but I feel like I should’ve already offered to talrijk to the gym.

Anyone got thoughts on this subject or and experiences?.

Munchies:
What happened when you stopped going to the gym? What was your friend's response? Was he able to have someone take him besides you?