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Am i developing a eating problem?

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Munchies   United States
Joined 3 years
Blimp Bizkit:
I know its a topic that is not seen that much around here, but I wanted to ask a general question around here if anyone has had a experience with something similar I am going through with.

So actively gaining weight is something that is supposte to feel fulfilling and enjoyable. Eating all the food you fancy and overeating to a certain extent, if you want to gain more quicker.

I have noticed lately that I dont feel like I am eating for the sake of enjoying it and enjoying the weight gain itself. Instead it feels like when I buy products that encourages weight gain, it feels like its food that is just a "means to an end", in a sense.

It feels like I am not eating or enjoying food for the sake of enjoying it, it feels like I am in a way forcing myself to eat it all for the sake of just getting fatter, gain more weight quicker and even at times forcing myself to finish something that I dont enjoy.

There can be times when I buy 2 jars of peanut butter, then thinking to myself "I dont really wanna eat all of this, but I *need* to get fatter".

It feels like that sense of *need* is taking over the weight gain journey, which feels like I am on a slippery slope towards creating a bad relation with food in general. To mostly buy food I dont really enjoy, but doing it regardless just for the sake of growing fatter. It feels like it is becoming hard to have a "healthy" relation with food, that food is something to be enjoyed and not buy things I grown tired of just to gain more weight.

I felt like I needed to take a step back from actively gaining and I am already in the works of contacting a former therapist about my eating habits, also coming clean about my desire to gain weight intentionally.

I have a feeling that I am overthinking this as it is, I dont want to create this form of relation to food in general and I want to get back on track enjoying food cause its good, not for the sake of adding on the pounds.

Has anyone else experienced this before?


When I was gaining, I wanted to be fat. I was a scrawny, underweight woman with a high metabolism. I went through a "get fat at all cost" stage for a bit. Eating things I didn't want to eat. Stuffing myself when I didn't feel like stuffing. I would weigh myself 10 times a day at one point. It was bad.

I wanted to stop, but I couldn't. I wouldn't say I had an eating disorder, but it was an obsession. I was not happy. One day I woke up and realized that I was torturing myself. It was hard, but I took a step back. Started learning to like myself as I was. I still gained, but not as obsessively as before. And eventually, I just ... lost interest. I was happy with what I saw in the mirror and didn't want to change
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Am i developing a eating problem?

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YumNom   United States
Joined 2 years
Don't force it with food you will get tired/sick of. Mix it up. You are not minmaxing a video game character. This progress is all up to you on how long you want it to take. Instead of jars of penut butter, have some icecream or a donut. Steak. Even a salad with a sugary fatty dressing. Let the pleasue or food and taste be a guiding factor as oppose to the quantity you can consume.
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Am i developing a eating problem?

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MickRidem   Canada
Joined 6 years
I felt this recently by the end of our Game where I gained as much as I could. It felt like a job, almost, by the end. It was as if I didn't want to waste room in my stomach for non-gaining foods, and sometimes all the thick and rich and salty can build up on you. I think a break is needed, give yourself at least maybe a month or two to just enjoy food again, and then reassess?

I'm not quitting gaining yet, but I'm allowing my desires for better food to step in for a while.
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Am i developing a eating problem?

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Doublefrosted   Australia
Joined 3 years
Blimp Bizkit:
I know its a topic that is not seen that much around here, but I wanted to ask a general question around here if anyone has had a experience with something similar I am going through with.

So actively gaining weight is something that is supposte to feel fulfilling and enjoyable. Eating all the food you fancy and overeating to a certain extent, if you want to gain more quicker.

I have noticed lately that I dont feel like I am eating for the sake of enjoying it and enjoying the weight gain itself. Instead it feels like when I buy products that encourages weight gain, it feels like its food that is just a "means to an end", in a sense.

It feels like I am not eating or enjoying food for the sake of enjoying it, it feels like I am in a way forcing myself to eat it all for the sake of just getting fatter, gain more weight quicker and even at times forcing myself to finish something that I dont enjoy.

There can be times when I buy 2 jars of peanut butter, then thinking to myself "I dont really wanna eat all of this, but I *need* to get fatter".

It feels like that sense of *need* is taking over the weight gain journey, which feels like I am on a slippery slope towards creating a bad relation with food in general. To mostly buy food I dont really enjoy, but doing it regardless just for the sake of growing fatter. It feels like it is becoming hard to have a "healthy" relation with food, that food is something to be enjoyed and not buy things I grown tired of just to gain more weight.

I felt like I needed to take a step back from actively gaining and I am already in the works of contacting a former therapist about my eating habits, also coming clean about my desire to gain weight intentionally.

I have a feeling that I am overthinking this as it is, I dont want to create this form of relation to food in general and I want to get back on track enjoying food cause its good, not for the sake of adding on the pounds.

Has anyone else experienced this before?


How long have you been pushing yourself to gain without a break? Because it sounds like you might have become a little obsessed with getting results and seeing the numbers tick upwards as fast as possible, and in chasing that have sent yourself into a kind of burnout.

It's okay to take a break. You don't need to optimise evything you eat for maximum weight gain. One of the best things for gainers and feedees is the joy we find in the foods we eat, and if you're not feeling that joy is a sign to take a step back.

Ask yourself this - if all foods had exactly the same number calories so you would gain the same amount no matter what you ate, what would you chose to eat right now? Let yourself have some of whatever that is today or very soon and try to just enjoy it. You won't suddenly waste away to a stick if you take it easy for a bit.
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YumNom   United States
Joined 2 years
That sounds good. Again don't force yourself to the point that it is unpleasant. The whole point is that gaining should be pleasurable.
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Eating Dude   Germany
Joined 2 years
I feel the same a bit.

I am not very overweight as my BMI is only 27. But I sometimes also eat snacks just to get the calories. And I even passed my goal weight 9kg ago and still wanted to see a higher number on the scale. But I need to eat a lot because I have a high metabolism
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Doublefrosted   Australia
Joined 3 years
That's great to hear you're in a much better place mentally and that you feel like you've managed to improve your relationship with food. You sound happier in this latest post.

Here's to you continuing to find the right balance for yourself as you explore all this, and you finding joy in your gaining journey.
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