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My wife knows.

I told her right to her ear that I wanted to make her as fat as practically possible- and she agreed.

The rest of our family is kind and supportive, but don't understand why a woman would do this to herself... and they don't know my role in it all.

The only person who knows everything is my enby sibling, who thinks she's not nearly huge enough. I agree.

I used to be completely against telling other people about this preference in my life, and it was becoming a source of anxiety. I was getting anxious going grocery shopping or hitting drive thrus because i thought people could tell food was erotic for me somehow. It was actually sort of becoming an issue.
Eventually I realized I’m probably gonna be into feedism for good, and trying to conceal it so hard would be exhausting. Knowing I’m into feedism can be my own private business, but other people get to say their preferences to certain extents, Shouldn’t I?
I guess I’m still trying to not be so nervous with it. Usually I just say I prefer my partners thicker, as that’s not uncommon in todays world. If I do mention gaining, I usually just say that I’m trying to get “curvier” and leave it at that. No one’s been weird about it so far, they usually just take the information in like anyone’s preference.
I’ve actually had a couple people irl recommend trying Boost or cream, and what foods help with weight gain. I wondered a little if they were into this too lol

In the beginning dating back to a couple girlfriends high school then college knew I like them heavier and really enjoyed it when they gained weight. I would encourage and have them order desserts after meals and they started to enjoy and tease me with their gaining because they knew I loved it. Then with my wife before we were married early on when dating I told her I would love her to relax and gain some weight rather than working out all the time. We discussed weight gain and getting fatter in some detail but I do t tho k she ever really knew how much fat I desired on her figure. Also, I desired more and more weight on women over time - earlier it would have been 150-200lbs. then 250+ and currently I would love to see my 5’ 3” wife around 300-350 lbs. not that it would ever happen but I think I would absolutely love her that size.

All of my tight friends over the years knew I liked thicker chunkier women, but I don’t think they knew I loved them gaining and especially to really fat levels.

Currently, Fat & weight gain is a driving arousing factor in my sexual desire.

I myself gained a good amount myself several times and turned the fetish on myself with the lack of gaining on my marriage with my wife, and found it was not only equally arousing but then my wife and I ended up gaining a bunch together at the same time in a mutual gaining relationship that was not fully communicated like that but we both gained a bunch of weight and got Fat and not only I loved it but she seemed to love it as well. During this time I would be tend to show off my newly huge fattened gut to somewhat strangers but knew me slightly from grocery store employees, restaurant employees where we frequently would eat etc. I would wear smaller I’ll fitting t shorts I couldn’t fit in anymore along with older jeans that were easily 4-6” to small in the waist now and my bloated fit would stick out and hang way over my lower waistline along with at times my t-shirt riding up exposing my lower gut. I would get so aroused doing these kind of things. I tended to start light conversations while checking out with my regular woman clerk at our grocery store who happened to be on the heavier side as well, she would comment on all the Ben n Jerry’s, chocolate and other fattening snacks I would be buying for my wife, and myself now. She would look at the flavors and say “ oh this flavor is amazing”. I would continue and say it is my wife’s favorite and mine now as well, and open things by saying it has done a number on both of our waistlines! She would say “ oh well, you only live once and you should be happy and Fat if you want” I would get so aroused hearing others in an off topic way alluding to the fact that I was no Fat.

I have always loved my wife discussing how Fat she was or getting in the past but during the times where we both got Fat I was so wanting her to tease or scold me for growing a huge gut and looking 12-16 months pregnant. I would always accentuate with clothes my massive bloated gut in the evening and even when we would go for a hug my huge bloated gut wouldn’t allow us to meet to kiss unless I forced closer md the kind of numb her away with my massive bloated gut and sheer weight I cling her a bit off balance. Seeing her awkward aroused reaction m owing how fat I had become without saying it was very arousing.

So your wife never alluded to your gain?

I've let all of my connections know I love to be fat! Family, friends, partners!
They don't know the extent of my arousal being stuffed silly and teased and played with, though.
I've tried to explain it to partners, but it's just not understood or enjoyed sadly

I don't mind telling people about my love of fat or gaining. If people ask.

everyone knows I'm the disposall in the room...fine by me, big boy can take it 😉

I'm not exactly "open" about it but I'm not "closed" about it either. I've only been with bigger people and they've always gotten bigger while they were with me, so to my friends and family it's likely not a secret about that part. They don't know about the fetish/kink-type stuff that goes along with it though, but if they asked about it I would talk to them about it.

This is the best way to go about it really. I never feel like it needs to be made a show of, but it also doesn't need to be some hidden secret - just being yourself and people can make their own observations, that's how it should be.

Besides, it doesn't really matter much what others think about it anyway.

That’s great, I wish I had more or even one friend like you. Being secretly or just being supported to grow without making a song and dance about it, that would be awesome.