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Distancing self from the fetish to take a break

I'm sure most people who follow you here would want you happy, even if that means losing some weight. I can really admire how you have kept up exercise even with your gaining and so I hope that will be helpful in reaching a weight you feel more comfortable at. smiley
1 year

Distancing self from the fetish to take a break

BlackjackandBerries:
I shouldn't even say "distancing" myself from it, still very much always going to be into plus size women. Just distancing as in I no longer wish to gain. I know this is ok, but feels touchy to talk about here.

Wondering if anyone else can relate and what your end result ended up being. Did you continue to gain or did you stop and scale back never to return again? Or is it a yo-yo thing?

Has anyone else here started off as an athletic feeder but fell into the feedee/feeder category and gained weight?

I did, and I'm in the beginning stages of losing most of it for multiple reasons. Mainly to "start over".

I personally feel bad that I'm letting down hundreds of people that encouraged me to gain over the last 3 years, but this is where I have to distance myself. I felt better when I was smaller so I am making myself smaller again.

Just a personal vent. I probably won't succeed in shedding weight, which I'm also prepared to live with.


I used to be a gainer, but I stopped at some point. Not for health reasons. I just lost interest. Became a feeder not long after. Never regretted my choice. But I was also not a very good gainer either.
1 year

Distancing self from the fetish to take a break

I think it’s important you do what you believe to be best for yourself
1 year

Distancing self from the fetish to take a break

BlackjackandBerries:
I shouldn't even say "distancing" myself from it, still very much always going to be into plus size women. Just distancing as in I no longer wish to gain. I know this is ok, but feels touchy to talk about here.

Wondering if anyone else can relate and what your end result ended up being. Did you continue to gain or did you stop and scale back never to return again? Or is it a yo-yo thing?

Has anyone else here started off as an athletic feeder but fell into the feedee/feeder category and gained weight?

I did, and I'm in the beginning stages of losing most of it for multiple reasons. Mainly to "start over".

I personally feel bad that I'm letting down hundreds of people that encouraged me to gain over the last 3 years, but this is where I have to distance myself. I felt better when I was smaller so I am making myself smaller again.

Just a personal vent. I probably won't succeed in shedding weight, which I'm also prepared to live with.


Do whatever feels good for you. I don't think anyone worthwhile here is going to be upset or think less of you for losing weight if you aren't enjoying being heavier. If you aren't enjoying gaining then you shouldn't feel bad about stopping.

Good luck with your weight loss journey. I hope you're able to get to the size you feel most comfortable in. 😊
1 year

Distancing self from the fetish to take a break

BlackjackandBerries:
I shouldn't even say "distancing" myself from it, still very much always going to be into plus size women. Just distancing as in I no longer wish to gain. I know this is ok, but feels touchy to talk about here.

Wondering if anyone else can relate and what your end result ended up being. Did you continue to gain or did you stop and scale back never to return again? Or is it a yo-yo thing?

Has anyone else here started off as an athletic feeder but fell into the feedee/feeder category and gained weight?

I did, and I'm in the beginning stages of losing most of it for multiple reasons. Mainly to "start over".

I personally feel bad that I'm letting down hundreds of people that encouraged me to gain over the last 3 years, but this is where I have to distance myself. I felt better when I was smaller so I am making myself smaller again.

Just a personal vent. I probably won't succeed in shedding weight, which I'm also prepared to live with.


Do whatever feels good for you. I don't think anyone worthwhile here is going to be upset or think less of you for losing weight if you aren't enjoying being heavier. If you aren't enjoying gaining then you shouldn't feel bad about stopping.

Good luck with your weight loss journey. I hope you're able to get to the size you feel most comfortable in. 😊
1 year