Lifestyle tips

Sounds like you speak from experience? Lol

Wife and I are lucky, I guess. Neither of us has to deal with too much outward displeasure of our weight. I’ve put on about 40 pounds in the past five or six years. She’s about 330 these days, up about 50 since we met nine years ago, and quite comfy with it ;-)

H O T!

1) Raise your shirt, exposing your belly.
2) Grab and squeeze your fat while making loud squealing/dinosaur noises.
(Repeat step 2, louder if necessary, until they stop talking.)

How observant. Expect me to get even fatter too. Simply put, fast food tastes too fucking good, and I'm way too fucking hungry to diet.

It's an impossible challenge. What makes one person happy will upset someone else. And you'll just be miserable the whole time.

If you're gaining weight the fast food route, you gott supplement it with some healthy foods and maybe a multi-vitamin. You'll deprive yourself of important nutrients otherwise.

Plus, more calories are more calories.

I've been fat for so long now, it's rare that I get comments. I can't even remember the last time someone said anything. Even as I gain more weight. I think once you're fat for awhile people just accept that that's who you are.

Sounds like a different way of saying, "get big enough to where people start to forget that you weren't fat at one point" lol.

I got a letter on this topic on my old feedist advice site. Apparently my advice worked out:


What can I say...?

Dear Dr. Feeder,
My name is Amanda. Last year I began university, and because of this had to move away from home onto campus. One thing I had promised myself to do when I moved out of home was to gain weight. Since moving onto Campus I have just let myself go completely, and as a result gained 50lbs. However, this summer I will be visiting my mother back home whom is very into healthy eating, and so forth. Let me say right now that I am not loosing any weight whatsoever for her, nor do I intend to stop. But, I do not know what to say to her to avoid her from being too upset.
What can I say to prevent her from being too angry?--Amanda, April 2, 2009

Dear Amanda,
You may not be able to keep her from being angry. Settle for keeping her from nagging you to death. Try:

1. If she gets angry, DON'T get angry yourself.
2. If she asks why you gained, say it's because you like to eat and don't mind the extra weight.
3. If she asks you why you don't diet, say you've tried diets and have found you're happier eating what you want.
4. If she makes a comment about your weight that is not in the form of a question, don't respond.
5. If she says something mean, say "Now you're just being mean."

And remember the three NEVERs:

NEVER apologize for your gain;
NEVER apologize for your size;
NEVER apologize for your appetite.

If she tries to get you to eat healthy food (fruit & vegetables, etc.) go ahead and eat it. It will make her feel better. You can still eat your favorite goodies as well.
If she won't shut up about it, say 'look, I know you're just saying all this because you love me and you want what's best for me, and I appreciate that, but it's my decision and you need to respect that.'
Let me know how it goes!--Dr. Feeder

Dear Dr. Feeder,
Sorry for the long reply period, I only flew in a couple of days ago. As you can imagine, it wasn't great at all. But surprisingly I didn't feel down about it whatsoever! When I first gave my mother a hug, she put her hand on my stomach and patted and squeezed it, constantly glancing down at it. It was horribly awkward. For some reason I expected that would be it. Later that night she gave me a brief "discussion" about my weight and asked me if anything was wrong and so forth. I explained to her exactly what you suggested, that I was happy the way I was and didn't feel the need to diet. Amazingly though, that was it!
Thankfully, she hasn't said anything else yet about my weight which I'm very pleased with. Thank-you so much for your help - the food here is quite healthy, so for that reason I'm looking forward to returning home where I can eat what I like.
Again, thank-you so much for the wonderful advice,--Amanda, May 4, 2009

Dear Amanda,
You're welcome, I'm glad it worked out.--Dr. Feeder