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Bubbingscrubbles:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend last night about our kinks. I happily participate and indulge her in her kinks regardless of whether I’m into them or not. However, when it comes to feeding/inflating me, she won’t even get near the idea. I really don’t mind but she even mentioned me going outside the relationship and seeking out other women to participate in my kinks with, and I think that’s what bothers me. It feels a little one sided and a tad unfair. Obviously I don’t EXPECT her to do anything she doesn’t wanna, but still. I dunno if I’m thinking too much into it or what. Anybody else dealt with this?

Bubbingscrubbles:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend last night about our kinks. I happily participate and indulge her in her kinks regardless of whether I’m into them or not. However, when it comes to feeding/inflating me, she won’t even get near the idea. I really don’t mind but she even mentioned me going outside the relationship and seeking out other women to participate in my kinks with, and I think that’s what bothers me. It feels a little one sided and a tad unfair. Obviously I don’t EXPECT her to do anything she doesn’t wanna, but still. I dunno if I’m thinking too much into it or what. Anybody else dealt with this?

Munchies:
So, she's open to opening up your relationship, but you'd rather stay monogamous. I respect it.

I'm curious. Why is she completely disinterested in your fetishes? Was there any negotiating at all about how deep she'd explore it? Or was she completely disinterested?

FSoc:
I have a lot of empathy for you my friend. I am a feedee as well, not a feeder. I made a lot of bargains with my ex partner at the time. She wanted to experiment outside of our relationship, which made me feel a bit uncomfortable. She knew I had this kink, so she said she would play into it. The best at the time she did was put some money towards extra food. But honestly, she became less and less attracted to me, wouldn't have anything to do with my kink with foreplay or roleplay. It was like having a business partner and not a significant other.

Needless to say, it didn't end well, and they went off with the person they said was just for experimentation. I don't date non feedee or feeders anymore, personally. But I think this was my situation only. You could make your situations work potentially.

Bubbingscrubbles:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend last night about our kinks. I happily participate and indulge her in her kinks regardless of whether I’m into them or not. However, when it comes to feeding/inflating me, she won’t even get near the idea. I really don’t mind but she even mentioned me going outside the relationship and seeking out other women to participate in my kinks with, and I think that’s what bothers me. It feels a little one sided and a tad unfair. Obviously I don’t EXPECT her to do anything she doesn’t wanna, but still. I dunno if I’m thinking too much into it or what. Anybody else dealt with this?

Munchies:
So, she's open to opening up your relationship, but you'd rather stay monogamous. I respect it.

I'm curious. Why is she completely disinterested in your fetishes? Was there any negotiating at all about how deep she'd explore it? Or was she completely disinterested?

Bubbingscrubbles:
It’s really confusing too because when we got together I was 228 at 6’, after starving myself for a year. Now I’m about 325ish and she’s still very much if not more attracted to me? She’s not afraid to manhandle me but anything more and it’s like she’s completely against the idea. But at the same time it’s not make or break either, it’s just odd, and a little bit of a bummer because I do anything she asks for. I dunno.

Bubbingscrubbles:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend last night about our kinks. I happily participate and indulge her in her kinks regardless of whether I’m into them or not. However, when it comes to feeding/inflating me, she won’t even get near the idea. I really don’t mind but she even mentioned me going outside the relationship and seeking out other women to participate in my kinks with, and I think that’s what bothers me. It feels a little one sided and a tad unfair. Obviously I don’t EXPECT her to do anything she doesn’t wanna, but still. I dunno if I’m thinking too much into it or what. Anybody else dealt with this?

Munchies:
So, she's open to opening up your relationship, but you'd rather stay monogamous. I respect it.

I'm curious. Why is she completely disinterested in your fetishes? Was there any negotiating at all about how deep she'd explore it? Or was she completely disinterested?

Bubbingscrubbles:
It’s really confusing too because when we got together I was 228 at 6’, after starving myself for a year. Now I’m about 325ish and she’s still very much if not more attracted to me? She’s not afraid to manhandle me but anything more and it’s like she’s completely against the idea. But at the same time it’s not make or break either, it’s just odd, and a little bit of a bummer because I do anything she asks for. I dunno.

Munchies:
If it's that much of an issue for you, then ask yourself if you want to continue indulging her kinks to the same degree or not.

Also, don't be afraid to look into sex therapy either.

But, if you are satisfied with the status quo, I suppose you'll have to decide whether or not you want to keep your relationship open or closed.