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I hung out with a couple guys at different times who weighed around 550 lbs at the time. Still looking to meet someone much bigger.

380. Meet some one on feabie that was near by after a bad break up. Was the only time because she creaped me the fuck out!!

probably my ex-gf. she was about 450 lbs at that time, i was 150 or 160... she gained weight while we were together, but then started to lose.

the funny thing is now, all these years later, i am nearly as big as she was... and she is probably down to 200 lbs now!

Not dated but was a "summer friend". I went to the US for vacation and I met a girl in the local Target. She was looking in her early 30s and was using a scooter because she was massive. Probably in her 500lbs or more. I was trying to get some ingredients to cook at the AirBnB and she asked me for help to get something in the upper shelf. She started recommending brands and cereal flavors that I should definitely try, probably bc she noticed I was lost and definitely not American, so my intrusive thoughts were "oh, she definitely a foodie or a feedee".

I saw her again a couple times, never caught her name, much less added her in socials or similar, but my intuition tells me that she is probably gaining.

Oh and I saw a guy, probably in his 500lbs during a ren faire, he was handsome and I deeply regret not talking to him or give my number or smth, I was too scared to ask and I was with my friend group.

600 pounds

My wife is around 350 lbs, 5'3".

Though I love/need the gaining process, when I was single I made a conscious decision to only date people who were already at a size I could be attracted to, and confident about it. Had bad experiences with anything else.

She was 275ish when we met. It was around the upper bound of what I thought I preferred. She completely unintentionally has put on 75 lbs in our time together though. (perhaps has something to do with the exact same amount of weight that I put on, lol).

Never thought I'd be with someone this big, though every day is fun new things to explore. The average body type that I seek out online etc has trended upward as her weight has, which is kinda crazy. And it's given me a lot of confidence in my own gain too, not for nothing.

You know? I honestly couldn’t tell you because I’ve dated so many big people that I couldn't keep track of their weights even if I wanted too.

But if I had to guess,

The heaviest woman that I’ve dated was around 315lbs. And the heaviest man I’ve dated was probably around 320lbs-350lbs.

My wife is the same height and about 320-340 at any given time. And I share all your observations on the ideal type :-)

Heaviest woman I dated was in the 350 range. The sex was incredible for both of us but she absolutely hated being fat. At least the handful of encounters we shared helped me affirm my preference.

My wife is around 320 these days.

I also know a couple women in the 400+ lb range, both in their 40s but with different physiques. One is active, but the other really struggles to get around.

Dated? Just shy of 400. It didn't work out because she went back to her "boy friend". We met at a size positive club. She was in a weird spot relationship wise. She had been with a guy for over five years and he decided he wanted an open relationship. She didn't. We dated for about a month. She was an awesome lady and I was down for more but I always got this feeling she was "waiting" for something else.

Eventually, she told me she and her ex had reconciled and were planning to get back together but we could continue to date. I wasn't interested in that sort of thing so I broke it off.

As for the largest I've "known"? 600+. Former dimensions magazine model easily 25+ years my senior. We chatted over forum messages and she happened to be in town on a lay over on her way to a bash. Don't think I'd be down for that sort of partner long term but it was interesting to fly close enough to the sun that the wax on my wings melted.