Zarathustra:
There's very low 'supply' of real, actual feeders, demand is disproportionately high. Seems like even being fed itself is a privilege a very few experience.
LydiaFatOttter:
Sadly it is worst male feedees and it sucks for them
As a female feeder, I struggle to have empathy for the male feedee plight - specifically the straight ones. From where I sit, it's a problem of their own making.
Don't get me wrong. There are some genuinely good dudes out there that are out here struggling. If you're one of those, I'm not talking about you.
I can't tell you just how many times a male feedee or mutual gainer has slid into my DMs and been horrible to me. They think they're entitled to my time, body, and mind. At best, they're so desperate that they come off as creepy and clingy. At worst, I get lock-you-up-in-my-basement vibes.
Sometimes, they even come out the gate with the crazy. It was at it's worst when I was new, but most people know better than to step to me like that. But I still get the creeps when I pop into chat. They don't even back off when I tell them I'm not interested or I have a feedee boyfriend. Lots of blatant requests to be my side hoe because they want a girl with a pulse to fatten them up.
I'm a special kind of crazy, so I can handle them just fine. But your average female feeder or FA is just going to leave. It's a snake eating it's tail. They are so desperate for female feeders that they chase off the female feeders that do so up.
It's sadder when they harass the gay ones. Like, my guy. She is a lesbian. You never had a chance, to begin with.
Now, I can't speak for the gay male feedees. Someone else will have to speak for them.