4 years
Are female feeders unicorns?
sweet_cuddles:
🙋🏼♀️ Here! But I already found my bhm
I always liked and flirted with chubby and fat boys from the beginning when I started getting crushes. I think there are girls out there that find big men attractive but let society scare them into not wanting to be open. I was teased off and on for always going after the fat boys, I even had a mom of an ex bf ask me if I was a chubby chaser lol. BUT I liked what I liked and didn't give a eff who thought I was unusual. I think finding a confident girl is harder.
nyaneko:
Congrats on your relationship! I was one of those girls who was afraid to pursue a relationship with a bhm because I was afraid of being judged for it, especially because I'm very thin myself. But after agonizing over the "should I? shouldn't I?" of asking him out for WAY too long, I finally decided that hey, I'm really attracted to both his personality and physical appearance, and all I'll feel is regret if I continue to deprive myself out of fear of being judged. So I asked him out and he admitted that he had a crush on me too. He was a little shocked that I asked him out though because he feels like I'm out of his league, but if I'm attracted to him and he's attracted to me then so-called "leagues" are irrelevant. My mom sometimes tells me in private that she wishes I was with someone more handsome aka conventionally attractive. She doesn't really mean to be rude about it. She thinks my boyfriend is a nice person. She can just be judgmental and fatphobic. I just kind of shrug it off because whether or not she finds my boyfriend attractive or not is irrelevant. Other than that, we haven't gotten any comments. I guess partly because it's rude to comment on and partly because it isn't really such a big deal after all.
TLDR: Don't let what other people think keep you from doing what you want to do. You'll be much happier that way.
cerditto:
This is the kind of things dreams are made of! Thank you for sharing your sweet story. I'm way too shy to ask anyoneout, but your story gives me hope.
🙋🏼♀️ Here! But I already found my bhm
I always liked and flirted with chubby and fat boys from the beginning when I started getting crushes. I think there are girls out there that find big men attractive but let society scare them into not wanting to be open. I was teased off and on for always going after the fat boys, I even had a mom of an ex bf ask me if I was a chubby chaser lol. BUT I liked what I liked and didn't give a eff who thought I was unusual. I think finding a confident girl is harder.nyaneko:
Congrats on your relationship! I was one of those girls who was afraid to pursue a relationship with a bhm because I was afraid of being judged for it, especially because I'm very thin myself. But after agonizing over the "should I? shouldn't I?" of asking him out for WAY too long, I finally decided that hey, I'm really attracted to both his personality and physical appearance, and all I'll feel is regret if I continue to deprive myself out of fear of being judged. So I asked him out and he admitted that he had a crush on me too. He was a little shocked that I asked him out though because he feels like I'm out of his league, but if I'm attracted to him and he's attracted to me then so-called "leagues" are irrelevant. My mom sometimes tells me in private that she wishes I was with someone more handsome aka conventionally attractive. She doesn't really mean to be rude about it. She thinks my boyfriend is a nice person. She can just be judgmental and fatphobic. I just kind of shrug it off because whether or not she finds my boyfriend attractive or not is irrelevant. Other than that, we haven't gotten any comments. I guess partly because it's rude to comment on and partly because it isn't really such a big deal after all.
TLDR: Don't let what other people think keep you from doing what you want to do. You'll be much happier that way.
cerditto:
This is the kind of things dreams are made of! Thank you for sharing your sweet story. I'm way too shy to ask anyoneout, but your story gives me hope.
Thanks, if it makes you feel any better, I'm actually super shy too. I asked him out over FB messenger, and was freaking out immediately after I sent the text, lol. I didn't really make it clear that I was asking him on a date either, so in the beginning he wasn't even sure it was a date. I feel like sometimes it's good to make the first move even if you're scared, because you never know what might happen and that way you don't always have to wait for things to come to you.
4 years
