Gaining

Only if you gain slowly and up to a certain point. What that point is depends on how you carry your weight, but if you gain past that, they will notice.

But why must you hide it?

Most people don’t associate food and fat/gaining weight with sexuality, that is our thing as feedists, it’s the thing that makes us feedists. That awkwardness you are feeling is you in your relation to food/fat/gaining, most people think oh they’re just hungry or whatever

You didn't, but I get you.

Before my partner decided to loose some weight, he used to "pre-game" his meals. Basically, he'd eat something by himself before he'd join others for meals.

That said, most people aren't going to think you're gaining on purpose. They'll think you really like food and haven't noticed or don't care about gaining weight.

My partner used to be about 200 lbs before he realized he had a fat fetish. He fattened up to 400 lbs before he met me. Then I pushed him up to 500 before we stopped.

No one assumed he had a fetish. In fact, since I've always encouraged him to be active and cut back on junk food, his friends and family assume that he decided to lose weight for my sake.

We joke about it all the time.

So true. I see a lot of messages from feedists in relationships with non-feedists that don't know about their partner's kinks. They'll ask things like "They complain about how fat their getting but they never do anything about it," or "They keep wearing ill-fitting clothes," because they think their partners are sending them signals. And every time, I point out that this is how most non-feedist people are when they gain weight.

complaining about how fat they’re getting without doing anything about it

Words have never been spoken truer. Who needs Dieting and strict exercise when there’s jelly donut bun cheeseburgers

I totally relate to this! I feel scared to show the people i live with that i have gained weight so i try to hide it as well as i can