Fat experiences

We're exactly the same weight! And I know what you mean about thinking people must be walking on eggshells. As a culture, we've stopped commenting on people's size, and that's a good thing, because most people refrain out of respect. Even when I gained 80 pounds in just over 2 months, no one but my partner said a word. A little disappointing! I put a lot of work into all that fat! Lol

Yes!! I have a feeling I'm a good bit shorter than you, but joining the 400 club was one of my best decisions ever. And I think we have similar daily appetites.

My aunt did make one remark Thursday when I was getting third servings of stuffing. She said, "Be careful. You might wanna slow down.' That's hilarious, in that the very next day, I finished a whole 9x13 pan on my own. 🤣'

For some people, comments are a turn-on, but everyone is different. If anyone, family included, makes comments that make you feel uncomfortable or disrespected, you always have the right to set your boundaries.

"I know you care about my health, but I'm not comfortable with comments about my body."

"I'm going to ask you to please refrain from commenting about my weight. Thanks in advance for understanding."

"I truly am thankful for your concern, but it hurts my feelings when you criticize my weight."

"I'm happy with myself as I am."

Your weight DOES NOT make you a "black sheep", and it never will, regardless of whether you decide to gain or lose. Ignore the critics and enjoy your journey!

I am yet to get any comments about my changes, but they are still quite small. I am very scared to get negative comments, but i would assume most are supportive and at least not ill ment?

Personally, I am immensely turned on by comments about my weight (especially negative ones), but out there in the 'real world', I think it's highly insensitive to make any remarks regarding someone's body, no matter how well-intentioned. One thoughtless utterance can totally ruin someone's day and shatter their self-esteem.

Yet an insane number of people do this habitually every day, and actually see it as some kind of virtue that they are able to speak their mind. As if these actions somehow make them admirable and noble pursuers of the truth, rather than the graceless, ignorant and ill-mannered clods that they are...

When I was intentionally gaining and at my heaviest I got absolutely No comments. That’s not to say that everyone didn’t notice the enormous weight in a short time I packed on - mostly all going to my new huge gut.

I so wanted to have my wife tease, joke or even scold me for getting so big, but it didn’t happen. I think she is one that never wants anyone to bring up her gaining and I have learned over the years to not discuss when she starts packing on the pounds unless she does first. I extend her the courtesy of not talking or asking about her gains just discuss how pretty she looks, even though she knows like her gaining weight and getting fatter. I just assumed she extended me the same courtesy even though I was intentionally getting Fat trying to get a reaction from her because it was so arousing to me for her to notice. She seemed to like it as I have mentioned, but never came out and said anything.

I found out some time before that she commented on me from years ago when we were looking at some pictures from way back, she said “that’s when you got heavier”, ironically it aroused me but I wasn’t even close to as big as I was when intentionally gaining. So, she noticed everything even though she did not mention it directly to me at the time. I sometimes wonder if she talks to her friends about my big gut, when I was sporting it and looking 15 months pregnant at the time. Or down the line she comments on pictures together and mention the same thing even though when I was trying to get her to notice, she didn’t say anything and kept feeding me like I was in some eating competition. She was feeding me and us at the time so much especially me it had me thinking I was going to be 350+ lbs. before she ever commented on my gaining.

I am sure her friends talked behind my back and possibly to her. I have heard the way she comments to her friends about other friends of theirs which packed on some pounds.

People see and know that you are getting Fat that just don’t tell you to your face typically.

I just had 2 Freinds of mine (they are a couple) comment on my weight. They have recently started dieting together. And have been trying to get me to do it with them. But the one finally told me that she noticed I've been having more trouble walking ! And that I need to do something! It felt so good to have all my hard work noticed! I just said that I have no plans to change my diet or to start exercising. And that I simply love food too much! It was the first time I openly said anything about having ZERO desire to loose weight. At least to people i know personally. And it felt so freeing! They were also super cool about it. It was a nice first experience lmfao

There's a difference between teasing in love and teasing in disdain. For example, if I call my partner a "gluttonous fatty" it's a term of endearment. He knows I like that aspect of him, so he loves it when I say that to him.

However, if a rando on the street called him that, it wouldn't have the same connotation behind it.

In your situation, this guy was belittling you. It's clear he's fatphobic. And since he's also a client, he was probably on a power trip too. He sounds like he's fun at parties /s

There are a lot of bigger people with internalized fatphobia. I wouldn't be shocked if he was insecure about his size. So when he saw you, 40 or so pounds heavier, it was his time to shine.

You also see it a lot from people who are significantly bigger than the people they are fat shaming. The other side of the coin is when they are "concerned" about your wellbeing. There's usually some unsolicited advice mixed in.

You hate to see it.