General

Plenty of people that are just here to get money out of folks. Some more blatant than others. *looks at bugzapper*

Well as much as many of us wish to have a the fat princess/prince or our dreams. Keep in mind that this fetish is also a business too. So do socialize around here at your own risk.

But hey there’s nothing wrong with saving up on money. For your daily expenses and to pay off college stuff. 👍

I’m pretty tired of the incessant whining to “be fed” with donations. If people really are that keen to make this about money, then they’ll find that market forces apply. And, when it comes to “being fed”, it’s a buyer’s market.

I feel like this is the flipside to the issues many women here run into with people demanding photos or sexual chat. I hear from men that they're constantly hit up by women (or people claiming to be women) scamming for money. I hate this trend, and I feel like this community wasn't always like that. Some of us really are here for connection and a place to belong.

It's this weird combo of patriarchy mixed with capitalism.

To be clear, I am not talking about the gross kind of guy that expects a free wank session on a feedee's dime. I am also not talking about people who have mutually decided for the feeder to pay for the feedings.

This specific kind of ick started on TikTok. Some plus-sized woman told her followers to find feeders for an easy buck. It dehumanized men by distilling them down to just being "providers" and increased the number of scammers. I've heard of and experienced women (some were catfish) sliding into DMs demanding money for food.

It's the inverse of guys that think feedees (and women in general) exist for their sexual pleasure. It's nowhere near the same level of harm, but it is harmful.

I understand where some people come from with having the business mindset and doing what they love to earn a living. That’s valid.
The issue is that everyone wants to do it, and it feels like you can’t have a genuine friendship or relationship without it being transactional.
Trust me when I say this, it’s possible to make the friends that lack the need to obtain money out of having a good time. They stuff themselves at their own expense and truthfully all we do for each other is support, cheer on, and bond over what we like out the experience and stuff outside of feedism. (I should also mention it’s a 100% platonic friendship, we have a mutual understanding for each other and don’t overstep, I know that’s difficult for a lot of people)