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Congratulations! I wish you the best of luck and I hope you have a fantastic wedding!

Congratulations!

Conratulations!

My wife was about 450 lbs when we married. Her only weight-specific requirements were a short service and reception, so as to minimise the periods she had to remain standing, and for the venue to have comfortable seating.

Firstly a huge congratulations!

On to planning: we had a couple of 400lbs plus guests at our wedding and can say that venue, reception layout and chairs were the main sticking points.

Often the rented chairs are placed a little too close together at the ceremony and tables can be cramped at the reception.

As you’re the bride, make sure your planner/ the venue/ caterer is at minimum aware of the weight requirements for the chairs and that for aesthetics your size is consider in the layout for the reception.

Other than that, first dance and photos: check out a number of show companies to make sure you are happy with what you will wear.

Finally: make it your day. The memories are yours and you want to enjoy it!

Firstly a huge congratulations!

On to planning: we had a couple of 400lbs plus guests at our wedding and can say that venue, reception layout and chairs were the main sticking points.

Often the rented chairs are placed a little too close together at the ceremony and tables can be cramped at the reception.

As you’re the bride, make sure your planner/ the venue/ caterer is at minimum aware of the weight requirements for the chairs and that for aesthetics your size is consider in the layout for the reception.

Other than that, first dance and photos: check out a number of show companies to make sure you are happy with what you will wear.

Finally: make it your day. The memories are yours and you want to enjoy it!

Thank you all, so much, for the well-wishes and advice! I really do appreciate this community.

This is excellent advice. There are some layouts I know won't work, for example, an elevated platform for the bridal table. Additionally, I want to be able to move easily through the room and greet people. Distance between tables is a consideration. Thanks again for your insights.

Congrats!
I got married to someone who as 400+ as well. Only tip I got is wear comfortable shoes since you'll probably be doing a lot of standing and moving.

Again, you're also kind, and I truly appreciate all the input, from considerations around footwear, to floor layout, and most importantly, enjoying the planning without panicking and driving myself crazy!

My mother, who has given up commenting on my weight years ago for the most part, asked if I was going to try to "size down" for the wedding. I'd be lying if I said that didn't hurt. It means even if she typically doesn't say it, deep down, she thinks a smaller version of me is a better version of me. I disagree. Also, it's my fiance's and my day, and he absolutely loves me, mind, body and soul. And that means every pound of my body, as long as I choose to be at this weight. Plus, we share a home! It's not like he doesn't know what I look like.

Another thing. At the reception you'll be whisked here and there for pictures and talking to everyone that you'll scarcely get time to eat. Plan ahead for that.