Fattening others

I put 100 lbs on my partner which bumped him from 407 lbs go about 500 lbs. His friends and family were worried about him, but he shut down most of their critism.

Iirc, they staged an intervention for him once. He was not amused. I did encourage him to move around more and eat better. This helped to a degree.

All that said, he was committed to gaining weight. He loved it before, but having someone else be into it spurred him to new heights. We only stopped when the weight got too much for him to handle.

He's still a very large man - about 390 lbs. However, no one bothers him about his size anymore since he's on a weight loss journey.

I hated them. A lot of the comments were fatphobic. I wanted to throw hands a couple of times. My partner wouldn't let me.

I understand that these comments were coming from a place of love and concern, but when someone says to yout partner "You are too fat to find love" you wanna start making out with him in front of them out of spite.

My partner is mine to love, cherish, and protect. Woe onto those who cross the line for I will not be kind.

This crap bugs me too - people saying stuff and right there all can see it's not true.

"You won't find love"

"I have love, right here. *kiss*"

"uhh uhh uhh uhh........."

Every

Single

Time

My partner would go to the ends of the earth for me. He is a good man, and I am madly in love with him. I will not let people disrespect him. I don't care what he looks like or if other people approve of his lifestyle. They are not allowed to degrade and demean him.

I know my mom has fatphobic tendencies, but she knows better than to say anything about his size to him. And while my friends aren't fatphobic, I'd defend him fiercely from any comments they'd make.

I don't tolerate fatphobia towards strangers. I really won't tolerate it towards loved ones.

I will say that since dating me, my partner's confidence has never been higher. There've been times when I'm frothing at the mouth over something someone else said about him, and he'll tell me that I don't need to worry about it. So long as he knows how much I love him and am attracted to him, other's comments mean nothing to him.

Also, masochist that he is, he enjoys the comments about his size to a degree.

My bf gained 45lbs since we are together. Most of his friends just told him he gained weight and some of them put it in a nice way, thinking it's disrespectful to say he got fat, they just said that he is bigger. Some of them joked about his belly, but none of them made him feel bad about his gain.

The only hursh comments came from his mother. I don't know if she's a fatphobic or she just has a big mouth, but either way I just felt the urge to shout her mouth up every single time.

To have some context: she's a short fat woman...and when I say fat, I mean obese. BMI over 35 actually. She actually got an obesity diagnosis from her doctor and I'm pretty sure she has some health realated problems because of her weight but she's doing literally NOTHING to lose weight. Also she cooks really fattening meals. Sometimes I hate to eat her food because I just feel like I eat oil and fat.

Her husband (my bf's) is just chubby (bmi under 30), but he gained some weight during holidays and she gave him a hard time about it. My bf also gained some weight and she did the same with him. Btw, I have to mention that she's the kind of person who doesn't know to calculate bmi or what that is and doesn't make a difference between muscular mass and fat mass. Also she can't estimate someone's weight. For the reference, she told to my bf that he must be 330lbs already. Meanwhile he's 225 and looking like 210.

So, with all those factors, she had the audacity to start telling my bf he should lose weight, that he's too fat, that he will have heart and liver problems soon...but in a really ugly manner. She was really mean about it. Idk if she considers me the guilty one, but she usually makes those comments when I'm not around. Last time I heard her when I was in bathroom, during shower. I hurried up and when I came out I just hugged my bf from behing, keeping my hand on his belly. She stopped talking and left the room. He asked me why I hug him so tight and I just asked him if he's alright. He told me yes and I told him I'm really mad with her. He said he isn't because he knows those are just hers idiot ideas and he doesn't care about them.

Now I don't know if he truly doesn't care about what she says. But anyway, I know I should respect my future mother in law, but I just want to slap her in the face.

Just to mention her first comment about me when we ate together for the first time was "you eat so little for no reason, you're still fat anyway"...I WAS LITERALLY HAVING VISIBLE ABS and wearing a crop top...

Sorry for the long text, I just needed to "talk to someone". It's obvious I can't tell my bf that his mom is a pain in the ass. He loves her.

Sounds like she's projecting.

Some people only feel good about themselves when they put others down like her sounds like your bf just learned to ignore it probably from a young age from other insulting things. set some boundaries with her, let her know that you think that behavior is unacceptable to you.