Deadass427:
These comments are my thoughts exactly. One of the things I was looking into was stuff like personal hygiene. I imagine at that size, cleaning yourself good and properly would take more than yourself to do so you would need someone else to help. I feel like my husband would be more than willing to take up a new roll, I just don’t think I’d want him to. I’d feel like I’d be living in hospice care.
I was my mother's primary caretaker for many years. She was bedbound, but not immobile (don't worry, she's okay now). On top of everything else I had going on in my life, I had to feed her, groom her, make sure she had her medication, help her to the bathroom, etc. etc. It was exhausting, and I had help from family members.
We didn't have a caretaker because those are mad expensive and even then, you can't let just anyone take care of your mom.
It was exhausting. Don't get me wrong. I love my mom. And she hated having to ask me to take care of her. But it really wears on both parties, and there were days we resented each other.
A lot of feedists into immobility keep it to fantasy because most people cannot handle the reality side of it.
And what's going to happen if he gets sick, has to go out of town, or is otherwise unable to take care of you? You're trapped. And he can't rely on you when he needs help because you can't move. And unlike people who are paralyzed or movement impaired, you'd be too big for any mobility aide.
