Personality in a guy?
In the past, somehow, I always ended up dating the broken, yet somehow asshole-ish guy. I saw someone who, like me, could use some fixing, and thought I’d be the one to do that.
Now, I look for kindness and caring as a standard. Someone who is aware that he needs to keep himself as the priority, but make room for me too, and is willing to share his interests and likes with me as well as let me share mine with him. Educational level not an issue, I’ve dated all across the board, but he always should want to learn and improve. I’ve got a lot of baggage, and while I’m Over most of it, some of it still hits me when I least expect, so patience is needed too. Men with a sense of wit and humor always get brownie points with me, also.
Conversational skills are nice, I hate being the one to carry the convo all the time. I don’t want controlling, but someone who is able to take charge when I’m in a codependent mood is appreciated. (Ex. When trying to figure out dinner and such) Oh! I don’t judge political affiliations, but I definitely need someone who is actively Pro-equity. I once dated someone who was anti-LGBTQIA+ and it didn’t go well.
As for looks, I’ve also dated pretty across the board. Generally, someone taller than me is preferred. Race doesn’t matter. Size-wise, I do like a bit of contrast, but it’s not a must. He needs to be able to present himself, or if he has some trouble style-wise, should be open to suggestions.
I think that covers most of it.
In the past, somehow, I always ended up dating the broken, yet somehow asshole-ish guy. I saw someone who, like me, could use some fixing, and thought I’d be the one to do that.
Now, I look for kindness and caring as a standard. Someone who is aware that he needs to keep himself as the priority, but make room for me too, and is willing to share his interests and likes with me as well as let me share mine with him. Educational level not an issue, I’ve dated all across the board, but he always should want to learn and improve. I’ve got a lot of baggage, and while I’m Over most of it, some of it still hits me when I least expect, so patience is needed too. Men with a sense of wit and humor always get brownie points with me, also.
Conversational skills are nice, I hate being the one to carry the convo all the time. I don’t want controlling, but someone who is able to take charge when I’m in a codependent mood is appreciated. (Ex. When trying to figure out dinner and such) Oh! I don’t judge political affiliations, but I definitely need someone who is actively Pro-equity. I once dated someone who was anti-LGBTQIA+ and it didn’t go well.
As for looks, I’ve also dated pretty across the board. Generally, someone taller than me is preferred. Race doesn’t matter. Size-wise, I do like a bit of contrast, but it’s not a must. He needs to be able to present himself, or if he has some trouble style-wise, should be open to suggestions.
I think that covers most of it.
3 years