General

Ditzy:
Any social network is like that so don't get discouraged.
The main thing is don't take it so personally its the internet after all.
Now don't take this personally as a put down but maybe you need step back and look what image you are sending.
If you complain a lot about the site or about not finding anyone people will look at you as a person that will never be satisfied.
If they never respond well you don't want to be friends with them anyway.
You can't force people to like you.
I never came here looking to hook up with anyone just make a few friends to chat with.
No expectations really.
I have met some nice people on here and have met some in real life and dated some that were local to me.
One tip is be friendly not pushy and demanding.

Stockylove:
I apologize for my syntax or spelling errors in English. English is not my native language.

I'm on the social network "Grommr" (perfect for gayBears, Gainers and Chubby Chasers like me) and I'm there mainly to meet people to feed and practice other kink and fetishes with them. But also to get to know each other and see if it will become friendship, a potential future romantic relationship, or just a simple date that will end with nothing.

but the problem is that I haven't been on Grommr for long, and I fucking HATE this social network.

I always get requests from people I'm not interested in. Or it's people who live too far away that I like. And all the people who interest me and who live not far from me don't respond, or can't, or accept me and then delete me. the equation is still bad in fact.

Now that I've been turned down by EVERY guy I'm interested in. I only have those who don't interest me, those who don't have any photos or descriptions on their profiles, and those who haven't been connected for months or years. I am stuck. It's just incredible. Ah yes and it's not like that I lived in a small remote village, no, I live in Marseille, the second or third large city in France. Normally I should have a choice. But no. Damn, this social network is horribly frustrating.

I'm just wondering if this situation is normal and if anyone has experienced similar things before ? Don't hesitate to write me a report if you have had the same problem.

I'm not necessarily looking for a romantic relationship and despite that, I can't get a real date. FUCK. I'm so frustrated it's boring.

FatFalcon:
Don’t feel too bad. I was a former Grommr member myself. I just never had anyone who was interested in me either. Yeah they will talk with you but they will just leave you hanging. I gave up on the website because I felt like I was never going to find anyone serious. I don’t mind dating or a relationship. Just wish I could find my partner who was into Feederism and is serious about it.

Ditzy:
It can't be that hard to find people to date in your area.
You just have to put yourself out there and meet people.
Be open about what you are into.
That may scare some off but you just might find someone real not a profile on some kink website.
Your match isn't going to come to you so you will have to find them.

FatFalcon:
You may be right. Part of the problem is though is there isn’t very many gay men in my area. Plus it’s not easy trying to find someone who shares the kink/fetish. So it’s complicated. If I was in a larger city maybe but small towns. The chances of finding one who is into gaining and single is hard to find.

Ditzy:
It can't be that hard to find people to date in your area.
You just have to put yourself out there and meet people.
Be open about what you are into.
That may scare some off but you just might find someone real not a profile on some kink website.
Your match isn't going to come to you so you will have to find them.

FatFalcon:
You may be right. Part of the problem is though is there isn’t very many gay men in my area. Plus it’s not easy trying to find someone who shares the kink/fetish. So it’s complicated. If I was in a larger city maybe but small towns. The chances of finding one who is into gaining and single is hard to find.

Stockylove:
Isn't there a big city near Manchester? A big city maybe an hour or two away.

FatFalcon:
There’s Lexington. But I have yet to find anyone there. Plus I have to deal with a brother who is always in a rush act.

Ditzy:
It can't be that hard to find people to date in your area.
You just have to put yourself out there and meet people.
Be open about what you are into.
That may scare some off but you just might find someone real not a profile on some kink website.
Your match isn't going to come to you so you will have to find them.

FatFalcon:
You may be right. Part of the problem is though is there isn’t very many gay men in my area. Plus it’s not easy trying to find someone who shares the kink/fetish. So it’s complicated. If I was in a larger city maybe but small towns. The chances of finding one who is into gaining and single is hard to find.

Stockylove:
Isn't there a big city near Manchester? A big city maybe an hour or two away.

FatFalcon:
There’s Lexington. But I have yet to find anyone there. Plus I have to deal with a brother who is always in a rush act.

Ditzy:
I think 90% of us feel frustration when it comes to dating at some time.
I had been on dating sites but usually when guys learned I was fat and didn't mind being fat they lost interest and thats OK .
I'm old school when it comes to dating so pretty much blah for most people with a kink.
Not being gay myself I know lots of gay men but those guys are really fussy about who they date.
Far more than a woman honestly.
I do hope you find someone because you deserve to be happy