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Regretting the gains

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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
FatFalcon:
Most guys also want me past my intended weight goal of 300-350lbs which I am not going to put myself through that. One guy wanted me to get to 500lbs. I can’t do that without risking my health. Too extreme if you ask me.


I understand. I'm an extreme feeder that got my partner up to 500 lbs. This was a mutually agreed upon decision. As sexy as it was, it also came with a host of health complications.

Some people are perfectly happy at 500+ lbs, but it's not for most people Most feedist tend to cap out around 300 - 350 lbs anyway.
2 years

Regretting the gains

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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
Morbidly A Beast:
I just don’t put much stock in other people when it comes to this stuff other people are flakey skiddish maybe just in the realm of fantasy but for the real people actually getting fat or are fat it’s a completely different world we gotta exist in and it’s simply not worth basing your worth or validation on them. A feeder may or may not exist in your future and that has to be something you grapple with.


I understand. But I suppose that's the difference between being a gainer and being a feedee.
2 years

Regretting the gains

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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
FatFalcon:
Honestly I’m thinking about taking a break from gaining. Too many guys pushing my weight for me beyond what my goal weight is. Encouragers aren’t helping much either. It’s frustrating when you have an idea body that you want and someone else makes you feel like you should double your weight for their pleasure.

If I had a serious relationship with a guy who was supportive of my gaining without being discouraged. like I want someone who is into mutual gaining. Not me just doing the gaining myself.


Hey, man. You gotta do what's best for you. If you think that taking a break from gaining is best for you, then you hardly need our blessing to do it.

And yeah. It's really hard to find decent feeders. A lot of them feel entitled to people's bodies.
2 years

Regretting the gains

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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
FatFalcon:
Thanks. It’s a real struggle to talk to guys online when they are supposed to *encourage me to gain*.


The biggest issue that I have is the fact that I am finally 200lbs gaining wise and then be disheartened when I feel like I’m gaining for nothing. The so called *encouragers* Aren’t motivating me at all.


I can imagine. Even though I am strictly an FA and feeder, I still get messages from male feeders and encouragers trying to convince me to eat for them.

Let's just say I have no idea how feedees and gainers haven't completely gone insane.
2 years

Regretting the gains

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Munchies   United States
Joined 4 years
FatFalcon:
I quit Grommr. It’s not worth the effort and energy when it comes to finding a partner. Gaining on your own sucks the life out of you.


Agree to disagree about gaining on your own sucking the life out of you.

I am an ex-gainer. I gained 50 lbs by myself. Went from 115 to 168 before stopping.

I am happy I did it alone. I never wanted someone's help because I didn't want to be under anyone else's authority. I was already underweight due to my mother insisting 115 was a good weight (and sometimes insisting I could stand to lose more.)

So while I understand that solo gaining isn't right for you, it can be the right choice for other people.
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