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OK so this is gonna be probably a very long rant and my last try at “putting myself out there”

For those who want to continue reading I am sure you have somewhat of a similarity to the title of my forum.

So, I’ve been on fantasy Feeder for awhile and I’ve met 4 people IRL over the course of having this page up. I really am happy I got the chance to meet those who share common intrest in real life and not just some online spank kink. (Which is okay but I personally don’t care for it especially if every time we talk you’re “horny”.) And this is on a CONNECTION basis just putting that out there. Too many people get confused when people say they want a connection. Not a SB.


I feel like I’m just wasting my time. It’s the same thing over and over and over again on a lot of sites surrounding Feederism or something similar. I’m not gonna lie when I say I’ve looked back at my previous forums and I’m quite disappointed in myself. I feel uneasy knowing that I want a connection and I’m taking the extra mile and achieving nothing, yet I continue. It’s not just that, it’s also giving people your time just for them to play around with it. I mean jeez, I really hit it off with someone who happened to be in my state. Very Kind soul. He lifted me up in a time where I was just down. We related a lot on what we wanted. It was nice. Weeks and weeks went by and I stopped hearing from them. I messaged them every other day in hopes that they were okay. That’s when I realized I’ve been making a fool of myself by trying to communicate with someone whom probably didn’t want to be bothered. 🤷‍♀️ Who knows anymore. All I know is I know what I want. But I won’t make a fool of myself out of loneliness or desperation. So, no more posts “searching” or “looking” I’ll let time decide. 🫶🏿

Thanks for coming to my tedtalk.
Discord:blubberbabe only looking for likeminded people per my previous forums.

That’s it. Adios.

I'm sorry you are having a hard time making a connection with someone. I've had that happen to me. You are talking with someone and then you don't hear from them again and you don't know why. Very disheartening Don't give up.Lol

Bottom line I guess, is we can't know what drives other people, whether online or in real life. I think most of us at some point in our lives have gone thru this experience and it's not fun. In your case perhaps he was afraid of being in a relationship and ran. Maybe he was married and his wife found out he was talking to you. You just never know. Some people are obvious in their intent, but others are more secretive or devious. I think with time and experience we get better at reading between the lines and picking up those little red flags that can appear out of nowhere. Wishing you all the best.

so, as a guy who has been "putting myself out there" for about 25 years, i hear what you're saying. when you're looking for a "connection" i can only advise that kink is such a tiny part of everything... find the person who thinks your interesting, who likes you for you, who shares your values and don't worry if your interests are really different - having a partner with interests different than yours is a great way to be introduced to new stuff.

the internet has made meeting people easier... and harder. easier, in that you have access to people that you never used to have. but harder, in that it has devalued the whole system with people behaving badly and trying to "game" the system.

it's not limited to kink, it's not about feedism, this site or any other site - it's just everywhere. and it's unfortunate, but it's what we have. i highly encourage young people to find ways to connect with new people in the real world, get away from online life, too.

Dating on the internet is rough. It really, really is. Speaking from personal experience, from conversations with others, and from multitudes of online articles, I've learned that online dating poses HUGE challenges by basically allowing people to forget about the real person on the other side of the screen. People get reduced to text messages. People get distracted by the next match. People stop bothering to respond, because there's no empathetic connection.
With that said, I also firmly believe that if you are stubborn enough, you WILL find someone. It won't be easy. And they may not be 'right' in every way. But if you focus on treating people like humans, like someone you'd want to be with yourself... eventually you'll find someone who's also looking for something real. And that will make the difficulty so worth it.