Misterelephant88:
Maybe there are women who like obese men, but most of them are only a virtual relationship and no contact (which are very few) but they would never have a date with one in public, because of what other people would say about them, I see more men who have no problem dating a beautiful obese or chubby woman, I also noticed something sad (correct me if I'm wrong) the so-called Body Positive is more for women than men, if an obese man asks a girl out and she says no, the guy can not say to her: ``You are a fatphobe! '' they just laugh at him and nothing happens, and when it is the other way around, when a chubby girl is rejected by a guy, then society labels the man as bad and fatphobic, that's the perception I have where I live.
I am very curious as to the people you are hanging around.
Fat men and AMABs can get it. Even outside the kink, they can get it. A lot of them end up in happy, fulfilling relationships.
And yeah, fatphobes of all stripes exist, but I'm shocked you think women and AFABs have better protection than men and AMABs in this regard. Society says some of the most deplorable things about women's bodies. In fact, a woman who isn't overweight but has a bit of a belly is called all kinds of horrible things. This is compounded if she's a POCs, disabled, a mother, etc
This is not to say that men don't experience fatphobia. They do. I've seen some really vile shit that no one should even endure. However, you need to understand the difference in society between men and women to understand why things are so different.
In society's eyes, men's value is their ability to provide. Yes, he might bullied for his size, but if he can provide in other ways, he gets a pass. Being fat is a sin, so you better be useful to make up for this.
Contrast this with society's view for women. For us, our value is in being pretty and reproducing. It doesn't matter of we excell in other area. To society, if a woman is ugly, then she might as well drop dead.
There's a men's body positive movement. It's not hard to find it, but it doesn't get as much press as the female counterpart. This is because there's more shame directed at fat women than fat men.
I've seen some evil things said about fat people. However, there's a huge difference in how that hate is expressed. When a man or AMAB is fat, society wants them to hide themselves. When a woman or AFAB is fat, society wants them to die.
