MountainChub:
Can you suppress the fetish and find happyness trough other aspects in life?
Enas:
I dont know how you can find happyness from a fetish, at least directly. A fetish has to do with pleasure, in order to find happyness you need to work for a higher cause, and so on.
What my advice is, is to start working on something exciting, so exciting that it makes you forget about your fetish! Dont try to do anything with the fetish itself, just let yourself get carried away from it, with something else.
Munchies:
This is like trying to kick binge eating by taking up smoking.
Assuming he has maladaptive habits with his feedist kink, it's just swapping one vice for another at best, or ending up with multiple vices at worst.
Enas:
Sorry, i didnt word it well enough. I had in mind things like reading / writing, learning, making art, or going on bysicle rides (thats something i enjoy a lot)
Munchies:
And that's putting lipstick on a pig. If you try to deal with internal issues only by focusing on external things, you won't get very far. You need to address the internal motivation as well.
Still, fetishes and kinks are a part of you. You can find healthier ways to indulge it but can't suppress it - at least for long.
Enas:
Of what use is it to adressed the internal motivation, if you cannot surpress the fetish?
Do you mean for example, psychological addictions that might have developed?
Can you suppress the fetish and find happyness trough other aspects in life?
Enas:
I dont know how you can find happyness from a fetish, at least directly. A fetish has to do with pleasure, in order to find happyness you need to work for a higher cause, and so on.
What my advice is, is to start working on something exciting, so exciting that it makes you forget about your fetish! Dont try to do anything with the fetish itself, just let yourself get carried away from it, with something else.
Munchies:
This is like trying to kick binge eating by taking up smoking.
Assuming he has maladaptive habits with his feedist kink, it's just swapping one vice for another at best, or ending up with multiple vices at worst.
Enas:
Sorry, i didnt word it well enough. I had in mind things like reading / writing, learning, making art, or going on bysicle rides (thats something i enjoy a lot)
Munchies:
And that's putting lipstick on a pig. If you try to deal with internal issues only by focusing on external things, you won't get very far. You need to address the internal motivation as well.
Still, fetishes and kinks are a part of you. You can find healthier ways to indulge it but can't suppress it - at least for long.
Enas:
Of what use is it to adressed the internal motivation, if you cannot surpress the fetish?
Do you mean for example, psychological addictions that might have developed?
I'm not talking about addictions. I don't know if OP has any or not, so I won't assume he does.
What I am talking about is introspection. What does he want? Why does he want it? Examining the different influences on his hopes, fears, and actions. Things of that nature.
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