MarshmallowMinotaur:
Ok, I’m sure this isn’t going to be popular but it’s just my opinion since the door was opened …
I’m gay but I mention it only when it’s relevant to the conversation. I’m not a transphobe or any kind of ‘phobe, being a member of a group against which there is still a lot of prejudice and I dare say hatred.
However, though having said I’m gay it’s not my primary attribute. It doesn’t define me. If someone is gay or trans or asexual or whatever orientation or attributes it seems to me that they put that first and foremost.
To be blunt, it’s always an announcement and almost spoiling for an argument. If someone begins a conversation I’m interested in I respond. I really don’t care which letter of LGBTQAP+ they happen to be.
If people don’t respond it’s possibly and probably because they’re not interested in the subject. I think it’s a disservice and insult to people to assume they don’t engage because the original poster is LGBTQAP+ or whatever.
I’m sorry if that’s harsh it’s not my intent but too many people in the LGBTQAP+ group look fir ‘phobes under every rock.
PhoenixChimera:
It is the common factor of every piece of abuse I get-I almost wish they’d choose another attribute to take up arms against, for some variety.
My question is do you make being trans the first thing you mention whether it is pertinent to the subject? To be blunt, do you announce it, are you “in your face” about it? When I first came out gay I made sure to tell everyone. At one point my sister told me in a less-than-tactful way “tone it down, it’s like you’re looking for a fight, no one cares that you’re gay”.
I moderate at very large and active religion and politics forum. We have a number of trans people whom everyone interacts with like they do with anyone else. So my other question is, actually it’s a two part:
1. Do people target you because you’re trans and how do they know?
2. Do people simply not engage with you? Maybe it’s nothing more than people having nothing to say.
I’m not trying to argue or be a doosh, I’m just asking as an “outsider” and disinterested third party.
