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My wife has always known about my fetish, but she’s into it herself. I’ve always had a had time explaining it to her. I was wondering if anyone had some realistic suggestions for incorporating it into our sex life. Or how to come up with a list of compromises for her to counter with her own .

I’ve asked her what she likes, or fantasies she has. And she says she has none. So it leaves me feeling like I have nothing to offer her back. But I would do anything she asked for. Just to make her happy and fulfilled sexually. I try to repress my kink for her but that’s extremely difficult. I’m willing to compromise on anything.

Perhaps she finds it all a bit "bleh" and as a result doesn't want to have a conversation which could lead to some sort of quid pro quo arrangement.

Have you tried discussing that with her?

She might be vanilla.

Question. How are you hoping to experience this fetish with her?

Foreplay and role play mostly. But with the occasional over indulgence if possible. I just want to share it together. She seems to not even want to try at all. I’m would be willing to do anything for her to feel sexual satisfied.

Is she saying she isn't sexually satisfied?

I believe she is. She just doesn’t understand the kink no matter how I explain it to her. She has know about it since the beginning of our relationship. She has gave it a try a few times. I’ve told asked her a lot about what I could do to help her enjoy herself more while still satisfying my side. I want to compromise and give her whatever she needs. But can’t get anything from here on how she feels sexually.

What do you need sexually?

Well she’s not into feeder/feedee stuff. So I try to get some role play or dirty talk or even wearing smaller clothing to set a mood. The older I’ve got the harder it is to finish without some feedism play.

What is she comfortable doing? I can't see someone who isn't into feedism being comfortable with some of the things you are suggesting.

Is she fine with you engaging in your kink outside of her? I don't mean finding a mistress, but there are other things you can do.

I have a much higher libido than my partner as well as having kinks he isn't interested in. I channel this in a lot of ways. I play fetish games, watch porn, fantasize about things during my me time, and write erotica.