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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Fatluvinguy   United States
Joined 21 years
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?
I don't know if you have body dysmorphia, but I do think you've let yourself get too obsessed over weight gain. My thought would be to stop or limit your time at sites like this for awhile. Maybe looking in a mirror as suggested might work, I don't know, but making peace with your body is a good thing. I don't think you need to worry about never being able to gain enough weight. Honestly from what i've seen and read feedee's generally reach a point where they are satisfied with their gain and just maintain from there. I'm sure that will probably be the case with you. Wishing you all the best, and hope you are able to resolve your problem
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Struggling with the plus sized body image

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Ditzy   United States
Joined 11 years
I was skinny growing up and I always hated my body.
No figure or curves was really demoralizing for me.
100 lbs maybe soaking wet.
A bad marriage that never worked out.
I decided to gain weight when I hit my late 20s.
I loved gaining but really didn't know about this site or feedism.
Sure I I doubted myself and why I was gaining and finally realized I don't care what others think.
Went back to college finished my education.
all the while still gaining slowly.
I would rather be fat and happy than skinny and hating my body.
I pretty much overdid the gaining thing and really happy I did.
3 months

Struggling with the plus sized body image

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BigBallBellyGirl   United States
Joined 1 year
ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?

Munchies:
I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.

I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.

What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.


I'm so glad you found a strategy to promote self-love and also that you left left an abusive situation! You deserve nothing but the best and especially a partner who appreciates and respects you.
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