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Hello all, I'm not necessarily looking for advice just more people's thoughts and experiences really.
So I've been into gaining for as long as I can remember. For years I'd always been an ultra thin guy, gradually since I was about 22 I've been slowly gaining weight. It hasn't ever been intentional however I have never attempted to combat it either. The problem I've had is that from a personal and I guess sexual perspective I absolutely love it hence why i post on here. However in general day to day life I feel incredibly self conscious about any extra weight I'm carrying. I usually wear baggy oversized clothes and avoid any activities that might mean I have to show my body.
I'm not sure if I'm conscious because of how skinny I used to be or because I was raised in a fairly fat phobic of environment. But ik sure in not the only person that feels this way. Id just like to get other people's thoughts, cheers 😊

Hey Beginnerbeerbelly,
You are not alone, I feel absolutely the same!
I’m also fascinated by weight gain as long as I can think but was slim or muscular almost all of my life.
A few years ago I was in a relationship where my partner knew about my fetish and I was gaining maybe 10 or 15 kilograms over a period of two years. She was okay with it and there weren’t a lot of comments about it from others because it’s normal for some people to gain in a relationship.
But I was super self conscious and after breaking up I decided to lose the weight because I thought it would be easier to attract women if I was back to my old size.
Now I’m back to my former fit and muscular body but often I think I’m dumb for doing that. If I just kept my chubbier body I maybe would have attracted only women who like bigger men…
And while I was getting some compliments for losing weight, most people don’t care about anything else then themselves.
I can’t decide if I like it more to be slim and don’t get comments about my weight but be frustrated at times or if it would be better to gain weight, take the comments and have the sexy fat body I fantasize about.

I completely get what your saying! I suppose it's somewhat similar for me. There's a part of me that wants to get properly into shape, not to attract people as I'm in a relationship, but moreso because I feel that I'm being judged by friends who are fully aware that I've gained weight. But at the same time I do enjoying being fatter and the excitement that comes with it. I suppose it's forever going to be one of those things I'm in conflict with, but it's always good to hear other people's thoughts

I used to be underweight, and so I intentionally gained up to 150lbs to be able to live somewhat "normally," meaning I could fit conventional clothing and not be remarked as being tiny by my peers (plenty of fat women told me they were afraid they'd break me when I was underweight). Recently, I've gained up to 200lbs, and it took me ceasing to care about what other people think of me because the ones who would only care to judge me negatively and shame me are not worth anything to me anyways. Weirdly, I've noticed that women seem to smile at me more warmly now. I would get smiles before, but I felt an undertone of intimidation from them, as if my being "conventionally attractive" suggested I was someone to be wary of. I think that's somewhat fair, given how many criminals go trending for being attractive with some people saying "[hot guy] did nothing wrong!" when they're on trial for murder. However, it's kinda not fair because of how much effort and worry it took to stay smaller all to become someone to be afraid of. Now that I'm fat, maybe I'm just "cute?" which I think I can be okay with. I've only ever been partnered up when I was at least 160lbs, which means having at least a chubby face. So something tells me that I'm going to be fine with friends and when dating while I'm fat.