Stefan:
So im in relationship with perfect girl for me. I like her personality, humour, looks, ideas, she is really nice and kind to everyone. We are 1 year into relationships and both think this is going to be long term relationship, everything is going smoothly. Also she is normal weight around 130 and trying to loose little bit od weight(which i totally support). So i feel really guilty about having this fetish and fantasising sometimes about feeding her. I think she is gorgeous as she is rn but i cant help but think how would she look little bit bigger(she doesn't know i have this fetish im too ashamed to tell her, but she knows i like thick, curvy girls). So i come to conclusion i want to try to get rid of this fetish i think it will improve our relationship and i think i will feel much better if i dont have thoughts of fattening her up and encouraging her to eat. I always try to support her but this fetish sometimes hinders me. Does anyone have any similar experiences or know anyone that does? Have anyone tried to get rid of this fetish of knows how to?
Munchies:
I think you two need to have an open, honest, respectful adult conversation about each other's preferences, desires, and how to navigate the relationship. You guys could overcome this together so long as you are mindful of her wants, needs, and boundaries.
If you repress it, it will bubble up and explode sometime down the line.
Great answer.
Discuss it with her. Yes there's a risk that it could be an issue. But it will be way worse if you don't and your feelings come out in an unexpected way. It might not hurt to talk to a therapist about this issue as well.
It's unlikely you'll get "rid" of this. But you can learn healthy coping strategies and ways to control your feelings in a way that is practical.
