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I don’t think you can rid yourself of this attraction, in the same way you can’t rid yourself of being gay it’s just who and what your attracted to

I agree. It's not something you can get rid of. You could put it on the back burner or in the back of your mind, but it will still be there. For me personally, I've been attracted to bigger women for years. Going back to at least when I was an early teen.

I think you two need to have an open, honest, respectful adult conversation about each other's preferences, desires, and how to navigate the relationship. You guys could overcome this together so long as you are mindful of her wants, needs, and boundaries.

If you repress it, it will bubble up and explode sometime down the line.

I think ultimately it comes down to if having kink related sexual/romantic experiences is important to you. I am attracted to being a feedee, and I'm definitely not skinny, but my partner is not involved and isn't into all this. She does know I am. Other side of the coin, I know, but I found that having/being with someone into feedism and having experiences related to this kink with a partner was not something I really needed/craved. I stuff myself alone relatively frequently and enjoy my own gaining, read stories, post/interact on forums, but I don't usually dm with people, or chat past a quick friendly tip or thought - and it's enough for me - I don't feel urges to go cheat (physical, emotional, etc) but I'm also okay not having this kink be apart of my relationship ever. If you want you can engage with this kink in ways that don't need to be done with your partner - but only IF you are okay with feedism not being apart of your relationship EVER and/or engaging in this in ways that don't result in cheating. You'lll have to determine what cheating is to you/your partner as not everyone has the same definition (especially when it comes to talking online/fictional role play/secrecy/emotional cheating). If its any hope, I'm happily engaged in my 5+ year relationship (known eachother for 10+ years).

When my partner and I were actively fattening him up, I'd say feedism completely enmeshed in our sex lives. So when he wanted to pump the breaks, we had to change up how we did sexy times. Tried new positions and techniques. Really leaned into body exploration as well as getting lost in each other rather than his belly.

He also discovered he really loves making me lost in my pleasure - even at the expense of his own. I'm not complaining.

It's all about finding your balance. Don't get me wrong, we still enjoy stuffing him, but there are also other things we enjoy as well.

For example, instead of stuffing him when he isn't in the mood to be stuffed, I might hand feed him something instead. One time while we were cuddling, I fed him a fancy chocolate bar. Another time, when we were in a cafe, I fed him something from my plate he had never tried before.

When you are in a romantic relationship with your feedee, sometimes intimacy feels better than going feral. And sometimes you're cheeky and hand feed your feedee in a public restaurant. I live in the South. All people will think is that I am a really sweet girlfriend who loves her man very much.

My god yes, I went about a year without it interfering or popping up. Then after indulging for a while, I went 3 months without it.

That was over 10 years ago, I’m comfy within the community 😊

yes, im in sort of a same situation.
I am in same kind of relationship for abut a year and half now and three months ago i told her that i have this fetish and it helped our relationship i think, but she doesn´t like it and it is hard for her to be intimate with me because of the fetish.
I know that it helped me to feel less stressed about her not knowing what i like but she is bit distant from me than she was before.
So, i don´t know man....

I feel like intensity comes and goes so often for me for this fetish, I am just a vanilla fat person a majority of the time but there’s some times where I’m completely head over heels and wanna be like 900 lbs as soon as possible and be stuffed to the rafters every meal

I’m not sure if a feeder has the same mentality or not, I don’t relate to that side of at all. Obviously our horny is a bit different than vanilla horny but I’m talking about extended periods of time