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I'm a mutual gainer, and a feedee. I am heavily interested in gaining weight, withbor without someone. It is the major part of my interests in feedism, and when I talk with people interested to chat. But some people just... always beg for encouragement for themselves, for money for their food, and because I enjoy helping I give it my all to tease, encourage, ect. It gives me joy to see them glut out. But then when I'm just asking for my turn they ignore me, give so little effort into it, and leave me feeling manipulated just for a quick tease. After a while, it really starts to wear you down to be denied the major part of an interest you deeply enjoy.

I'm sorry love. That sounds horrid.

I will say that as recovered people pleasure, the best thing you can do is advocate for yourself early on. When you are in your submissive, it's really easy to give too much of yourself to make the other person happy. But understand that submission is a gift you should only give to the worthy.

You don't gotta be like me and be ready to throw hands. A simple, "No, I don't want to do that. This is what I want to do" and then stick to your guns is also good. It's a little scary if you aren't used to it, but I believe in you.

I get it girl. It can be rough. Especially when you're in this community and finding someone to gain with can be difficult. But I believe in you. I'm currently looking for someone to gain with too. But it can be hard. I wish you all the best and if you ever get stressed or wanna chat you can hit me up.

some people are feedees other are feeders, some are both and they are the mutual ones. Some people say they are mutual but they just entertain the idea of a fat partner. I think the later do the former a great disservice and give us situations like yours.

The inclination towards being a feeder is not just something that can be picked up I don’t think, feedee I think you can evolve your relationship with food eating stuff etc etc but feeder is something you have probably from early development.