Femme Calories:
As somebody actively into exercise and healthy lifestyles, the thought of a feedee/gainer eating up all the food around me is rather titillating. Like, this gluttonous person is leaving me to hunger, but it's oddly arousing. Maybe it's because I used to be deep into eating disorder circles, but to this day I indulge the idea of being left to starve and beg this gainer to leave me a crumb or two.
Any thoughts from the other side?
I definitely feel this fetish from the other side. The idea of being so unthinking, greedy, and hungry that I either don't notice or don't care that I'm literally starving someone else so I can get even fatter is *hugely* attractive. That my *need* to eat is so imperative to me that it trumps any other consideration.
As sexy as I find it, it's one of the fetishes that I tend to keep either:
A). Fully in fantasy- roleplay, chatting. I've written at least two stories where elements of this dynamic are at play.
. Finding ways to incorporate into real life in a 'healthy' way. As someone who feels a lot of extreme feederism kinks, this is kind of the best thing I've found.
Not 'starving' your feeder, but consensually agreeing on diets for a period, for instance- if you have an athletic feeder for instance, performatively drinking milkshakes while they're in a cutting phase. Or making rules- any chocolate or bacon or whatever in the house is exclusively for the fat partner.
This is basically the same approach I've taken with my attraction to immobility- I don't have the fortitude (or resources) to actually commit to it permanently. But clearing a weekend so that I can spend it (almost) entirely in bed while me feeder waits on me? That's possible!
Of all of my 'extreme' fetishes, this is the only one I've ever really felt *ashamed* of, for some reason. I think because it's kind of easy to extrapolate to a macro-scale; as someone who socially and politically believes in equity and everyone having their fair share, it's hard to square that with also being turned on by the fact that I consume *so* many more resources than the average person- food, but also things like my electricity use and my carbon footprint. I don't really have a good answer for that part of it- and as a lot of people who have 'extreme' tastes know, the shame of it can get wrapped up in the appeal itself.