Submission and domination

How to be a better dom

Hi there! I was wondering if anyone here had some tips for being a better dom?

I'm asking because while I usually consider myself a sub, I'd like to bed more of a dom.

Keep in mind I'm more into the gentle dom side of the feederism, with some playful teasing thrown in from time to time.
4 weeks

How to be a better dom

Ligr77:
Hi there! I was wondering if anyone here had some tips for being a better dom?

I'm asking because while I usually consider myself a sub, I'd like to bed more of a dom.

Keep in mind I'm more into the gentle dom side of the feederism, with some playful teasing thrown in from time to time.


Well, how are you domming now?
3 weeks

How to be a better dom

Well, last time I tried domming, I want for more of a gentle dom style, leaning more towards praise. That said, I think they caught on that I wasn't really used to domming.
3 weeks

How to be a better dom

Ligr77:
Well, last time I tried domming, I want for more of a gentle dom style, leaning more towards praise. That said, I think they caught on that I wasn't really used to domming.


Being a dom means you are in charge. Even if you are a gentle dom, you are still in charge. This requires confidence.

In your case, if you aren't used to domming, discuss it with your partner. Ask them what they like, what they don't, and what are their expectations are. You also need to discuss limits, green lights, and things you are open to trying.

If you are not experienced with domming, you are going to suck. And that's okay. If you are open to learning and listening, you'll get better with time.

Have fun!
3 weeks