English Feeder:
My partner is in a wheelchair. But it was something she wanted years before it became necessary.
She enjoys me pushing her and taking her to restaurants and public places. We live in England and disabled access is available everywhere. Not that we use public transport but buses can lower there suspension. ( A few exceptions old buildings ) She has a made to measure bariatric wheelchair. We have found that the general public and staff are always helpful and accommodating. Holding doors. Finding suitable access. But regarding the general thread there are several ways of looking at it. If i was not accommodating in my partner's need for a wheelchair would she have chosen to loose mobility to where she needs a wheelchair? I have on occasion gone to the pub ( i like a ale ) i have had enough ready to leave a mate will say don't go yet let me get you another pint. It leads to what we call a session.I end up having a curry or Chinese maybe a kebab on the way home. End up getting home early hours. Wake up with a thick head. Was it my mates fault??? No....
Did i have a good night? Actually yes
If you apply that to the current thread everything is ok. We don't know the personal dynamics of the relationship. But i do agree there could be red flags. Everything in life is fine provided it's by mutual consent.
Munchies:
You didn't read the thread either.
The issue is not "fattening your partner so much they need a wheelchair." If both you and your partner have had open, honest conversations with enthusiastic consent on both ends, I don't care. You do you boo.
The issue is he did not do that with her. He made is extremely clear that he "convinced" her to do this. She did not want to do this. He's been subtilty manipulating her until she made her peace with her circumstances.
I'm not looking for subtext. I am reading exactly what he said. I am taking this man at his word without adding or subtracting anything that he's said.
Don't defend people just because you are trying put on a shoe that doesn't fit you. It ain't a cute look.
English Feeder:
Looks like you make a lot of assumptions . I can read by the way.
Lol
Munchies:
The more I talk to you about this, the more you make me legitimately concerned about your character.
Not saying you are abusing your wife. Not accusing you of anything like that.
But if you see blatant abusive behavior and just ... shoulder shrug it and say people are looking too deep into things, I worry for anyone around you that is in an abusive or toxic situation. It is clear to me that unless it's something overt, you wouldn't notice they need help.
Zampano777:
Sorry but you can’t Judge that. You confuse your interpretations with hard facts. Sorry, but you should urgently check yourself in your reviews.
I actually can. It's called reading comprehension.
And now I am questioning your character as well.
Curious that you reserected an old thread just to make this reply. Oh well. In a way, I am glad you did. This way, anyone who goes through your activity will see you as the red flag you are.