General

You know I’m not exactly crazy about the kink as I used to. However I also do find that reading into these forums/threads do sometimes make me feel that bit of comfort. Or at best give me some kind of insight into a better understanding about the world of either the kink itself or just being someone who’s into larger people.

From when I found out about my interests within larger people I did knew about the stigmatization and the guilt that comes with it, but I’ve always wanted to find a place where I don’t have to be ashamed of myself anymore or at least a lot less guilt?? Either way it is kinda nice to be in a place without the outside noise from society telling someone how incorrect their body is and that you have to fix it to be more acceptable. kinda a breath of fresh air if you ask me?

Also I also kinda find it interesting for how in a community like this there’s some kind of an understanding when it comes to weight change. It’s almost there’s a nuance towards it, compared to the outside where it’s so noisy and how weight loss is celebrated like hardcore. 😅 Maybe I’m sounding a little extra, but that’s what I have noticed anyways.

Now yes as you probably already notice, I am not a bigger person myself. But I believe that there is a place for someone like me (someone who’s into bigger people) to belong to a place like here. And trust me, the negative noise out there can affect people like me too. Maybe not that often, but it does happen.

No, I actually get what you mean. People in society go so hog wild for weight loss to the point of being insensitive. Back in high school my school nurse happily asked me for weight loss tips on how I lost so much and how I look so good and I just honestly told her “I have an eating disorder”… And she still kept asking for tips. People are so obsessed with being skinny it makes them fucking weirdos.

Beauty standards, especially for women, are completely ridiculous and stupid. Please, be aware, you dont need to subscribe to a stupid idea!

(i'd write a wall of text, expanding on this, but i'm not sure if anyone would appreciate it)

There is no reason to feel proud or ashamed for something you didnt conciously decided!

Well I certainly appreciate that.

Yeah it’s such quite a strange reality that we’re living in. Like I get if people want to lose weight to look after their wellbeing and whatnot. But sometimes when people go crazy about it, it really effects a lot of people that can be driven to a distorter. Weight and body size are such a touchy subject, it always has been.

I hope you also understand the underlying logic!

Kinda. I have no shame for what I am attracted to. I mean I am what I find attractive too (hello it says in my username 😅). But I do have bad days at time.

Just to be clear, im more concerned with you being able to make solid arguments against criticism (of the stupid kind) on your fetish.

That’s understandable, I get what you’re trying to tell me. Lately I’ve been trying to take things in a more nuanced way. Because I feel like discussions like that are more important than ever to find that sort of nuance.

Trying to balance between what you believe versus what the general public says isn’t an easy thing to do, especially when you’re trying to say something that almost everyone would agree (or have the most likes in a comment). I am aware that some people don’t always like what I have to say, but if people can at least acknowledge that I have a point in some degree… I can live with that.