Fat experiences

Expect you'll laugh about your experience before long but why do we have seats like this, and worse still on airlines, that are too small for the population which we all know is getting bigger? Large people being forced to pay for two airline seats seems common practice and must be very uncomfortable. Fortunately I can still fit on a single airline seat but mostly I need a seat belt extender - but sometimes not. I'm amused at having to ask but others I know are embarrassed - why not simply fit longer belts?

One reason - money

I ran into a colleague I hadn’t seen in five or six weeks. She’s funny, sweet, and extremely straightforward—she just says whatever comes to her mind, no filter. You know the type. She stopped, looking surprised, widened her eyes, and grinned: "Wow! You gained some kilos!" Then she gestured in the air around her own imaginary love handles, squeezing them as if she were pinching invisible fat. She looked genuinely amused and taken aback.

I’m not that much heavier, and I haven't really gained that much. But I was very fit to begin with, so I guess it shows. Plus, I think some people are surprised that I, of all people, would gain weight. Normally, I can handle her comments—at work, we tend to be pretty direct with each other. But this time, I just felt my cheeks go red with embarrassment.

To add to it all, it was Friday, and the meeting room was full of croissants. Every time I reached for one, her face lit up with this teasing grin, clearly enjoying herself. She’s in a relationship, which I fully respect, but she still has this way of making a moment both funny and a little too honest—something only she can pull off.

I’m sorry but what was mortifying about going grocery shopping? I don’t think people actually care what you get or think oh this guy is going to eat all of that? Idk just put yourself in the shoes of someone else do you think you’d really think twice about what someone had in there cart?

We sexualize eating not many people even put to and to together

Imma level with ya, chief. You are overthinking this. No one at the grocery store cares what you are buying. No one is looking into your buggy.

And even if they did, there's nothing that looks weird. The only time people will raise an eyebrow is if you are buying things that suggest something nefarious or if you are buying truly excessive amounts of something.

Like if you bought 2 buggies full of nothing but cookies.

And even then, no one will pay attention to you that much. They have their own shit to do.

Ran into a friend from college who I knew when I was about 70 pounds lighter. They didn’t recognize me

Oh I collected multiple embarrassing stories by now.

One happened a couple weeks ago while I sat on the bus. Since it was a travel bus the seats where more spacious, but my fat ass still spilled over to the next one.. a few stations later a man came to sit on his designated seat right next to me and I could tell he felt uncomfortable but what should I do… he attempted to pull down the armrest multiple times only to find out it wouldn’t go down because of my love handles/thighs. He even tried to squish it down past my fat, it was so uncomfortable.
We had very weird eye contact afterwards and I told him I’m sorry. Worst thing was that I packed lots of snacks for the ride (was about 6h) and anytime I ate cookies or whatever, he glanced over and I could tell he judged me. Towards the end of the ride and my many snacks he told me that it’s my fault for looking like this haha
I just told him that I personally don’t have a problem with this and we sat there in silence

I got scolded for gaining so much weight by two people who have had gastric bypass and are both on ozempic on New Year’s Eve I hadn’t seen those people in years. I am 150 lbs heavier than them when they were at their heaviest

Fat people when they lose weight are the worst

For three weeks now I have needed help getting out of bed. The first time i was in shock. I've tied a rope to the bedframe and door to use to help me up and that worked for a while but now I cant do it by myself.

I never intended to be like this. trapped in so many ways. Most of the time is is embarrassing and degrading. I just don't understand how this also is exciting sometimes. I should be ashamed only