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My beloved sister in Christ, I am come to you as someone who is also blessed and highly favored. I'm also a former gainer turned feeder and a cult survivor who has gone through many years of deprogramming as well.

Beloved you are overthinking this.

Being fat is no a sin. And gluttony is not about overeating. Gluttony is about satisfying your wants at the expensive of others. So yes, this can mean eating a lot of food, but it's not the only thing.

On top of that being fat does not necessarily mean being unhealthy. On the flip side, being thin doesn't mean health either. I was a sickly child who was underweight for much of my life. When I started my gaining journey, I stopped getting sick as much.

Mind you I was not living off of fast food either. I ate healthy and worked out. I'm currently rocking the athletically think look.

I'm currently in a relationship with a very large man. Now, he is looking to get fitter and lose some weight, but that is his choice. He doesn't want to be slim. He just wants to be able to keep up with me and any future kids we might have.

Now, there are some people on here that do enjoy eating a lot and being lazy. But that isn't a moral failing. They aren't going to Hell because they like their jiggly thighs and fluffy bellies. And neither are you.

It's all about finding your balance and what works for you. If you repress this, it will just fester and explode. Better to find your balance instead.

Have you talked to your fiancé about your feelings? If he is a man worth half his salt, he will love you as Christ loves the church. He will want to hear about your cares. You're going to be his helpmeet, his life partner. If he is worthy of you, then he will be happy to help you figure this out.

If not? Dodged a bullet.

Alright, sister. Be blessed. I wish you well on your endeavors. Also congrats on your upcoming wedding!

In most cases, people who fantasize about being fat, end up gaining. It's just natural. You have no reason to stay thin, and people tend to gain as they get older. I would not beat yourself up over it. Just enjoy it. I really see no religious reason to stay thin.

I’ve been there it’s hard. I grew up in the church my entire life, even went to private Christian schools and didn’t go to a secular school until high school. My first memory of feeling arousal was related to weight gain. When I got older and realized what I was doing and what those feelings were I felt deeply ashamed and did everything to correct it.

I hid it from everyone especially my partners because I was so terrified people would know I was an awful sinner that got off on people becoming helpless blobs of fat. It created a deep self hatred that has taken years of therapy and an understanding and supportive wife to conquer. I was always taught that gluttony was a sin and my dad was often beaten and abused by his mother for being chubby. So while he wasn’t as bad he was still incredibly cruel when it came to shaming my body.

And then one day after a girl I was with broke up with me I realized I wasn’t happy. Not just because I wasn’t with her anymore but because I realized I didn’t like myself at all. So I decided that maybe I should just try accepting myself and date people that share my kink. Eventually I met my wife and the rest is history.

We have both decided that we want this and we will do it as healthy as we can but life is to short to spend it denying who you are. And I am happier then I’ve ever been.

We both have an understanding that our health comes first, but we indulge our kink as much as we can up to that point. If she or I get a warning from our doctor that’s life or death we are choosing life. But there are plenty of healthy ways to gain body fat and still be at least somewhat healthy.

I’m not a dietician or doctor of any kind so take this with a grain of salt, but honestly if you are getting at least some exercise, eating healthy foods at larger portion sizes, and avoiding excessive sugars and fats even though they’re more fattening, then you should be able to still gain weight at an admittedly slower pace but while not putting strain on your organs, muscles, and joints. You may not live to be 100 but have you seen what 90+ year old people look like? Have you seen what they go through just to see another day? You diet and exercise and suppress your deepest sexual desires and all for what an extra 20 years in a hospital bed on heart medication anyway? Or who knows you could get cancer tomorrow or get hit by a bus. The point is if all you do with your life is try to make it last longer you’ll look back when it’s finally over and have nothing to reminisce on in your final hours.

As far as god goes, as a believer I really feel the church has deceived many people for a long time. People often misconstrue scripture to suit their needs or make additions to the Bible during translation so for instance the passage about “a man who lays with another man is an abomination” is really “a man who lays with a boy is an abomination.” I feel that gluttony being a sin is more in reference to someone in a place of power letting others starve while they eat in purposeful excess. I feel that God wouldn’t be so cruel as to make so many of us attracted to fat people if it was always a bad thing or that big of a deal to him, just like I don’t believe he wouldn’t have made so many people attracted to the same sex or both sexes if he hated them so much.

Tbh it’s really just biology, prehistoric humans were more likely to survive harsh winters and go longer without food if they were fatter. Women that were plump were more attractive to men because it signaled to them that they are more likely to successfully breast feed and survive pregnancy. Overtime a portion of the population has become extremely attractive to a trait that is now acquired by accident because of how abundant food has become.

My point is that having this kink and indulging it is 100% ok as long as it’s what you want. It’s not my story or anyone else’s, it’s yours so make it a good one.

I’m sorry this was long, please love yourself today and I hope you and your partner can find a way to express this aspect of yourself in a safe and healthy way

I feel the same, I am naturally fit and love being fit so I don't like to go against my body so I completely understand this. I too am trying to understand these thoughts more and know how to balance it in life.

Being fit and being fat aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. So I've you're looking to gain weight you can still be fit, it just might take longer to see the results you want as your lifestyle naturally causes you to burn more calories. Obviously yes if you're into extreme weight gain you'll run into some obstacles, but it's not entirely unmanageable.
If you want you could try dipping your toes in and gain a small amount of weight to see if you like it and if you don't, it's not impossible to burn it off.