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I got a funny comment about my weight gain yesterday, delivered with a wink and a grin:
'You're getting fat!'

The person who said this is a native English speaker. What I'm wondering is whether there’s an implication that she thinks I’m going to get even fatter with this wording? Is there a difference between this and saying:
'You gained weight/fat'?

Are there any English speakers who can help me out?"

Question: do you know this person? Because if not, I'd ignore the interaction. Just a random weirdo.

But no. There is no difference between saying "You gained weight" and "You're getting fat." No one says "You gained fat."

Thank you for your response! I should have clarified that the person who made the comment is actually a friend I haven’t seen in a while, and our dynamic is usually pretty direct and playful. The tone was lighthearted, and I suspect it wasn’t entirely random—maybe they wanted me to think about whether I'm on a trajectory toward embracing a fluffier future. 😅

I understand that 'You’re getting fat!' and 'You gained weight!' might not carry much difference in meaning, but I was curious if the phrasing hinted at them imagining me growing even fatter. Either way, it’s been an amusing thought spiral to unpack, and I appreciate your insight!

I think you are reading too much into what was said.
Most people really don't think much about if you get fatter in the future.
People with a fat fetish would think that way but most don't have a fat fetish.
If someone says wow you have gained a lot of weight I just say thanks for noticing and the subject ends and we discuss other things.

The truth is, I loved getting that comment, and I’m hoping for more from her and others (teasing). What I was hoping for, and admittedly imagining (probably a bit of a stretch), was that she had this internal image of me just getting fatter and fatter. That’s why she used the word “getting,” as if it’s an ongoing process with no end.

I realize now that I’ve probably overthought this a bit. Thanks for your feedback!

think you’re right—I probably did read too much into it. Honestly, I was a bit caught off guard by her and the comment, but in a way I really liked. It got me thinking.

What I’d love to do is make sure people who tease or comment like that know it’s completely okay—and even welcome! I think a lot of people hold back because they’re afraid of crossing a line or hurting someone’s feelings. But in some cases (maybe rare ones), that hesitation can actually hold them back from playful and enjoyable teasing.

For me, teasing like this—when it’s done in a safe way—is something I really appreciate. It’s fun, and it adds an extra layer of connection. I just want to make sure others know they don’t have to walk on eggshells around it.

What if she says: "Haha you`re getting pretty fat already" 😅

That would be friendly teasing.