CelticBlimp:
I just had this experience, and I'm feeling both amused and annoyed. The closest I've been to meeting a feeder was this man who was from the city I'm living in but resides in another city. We spent around a month talking about meeting, what we would do once we met and plans for the close future. But then he started showing disinterest and withdrawing, clearly bored from our interactions. He had stopped replying and so did I matching his energy, and I deleted his contact and chat from my phone. This last week he returned, crying about how I stopped writing him and that he still wanted to meet me. I ignored it and deleted the messages. He wrote two more times, each one more desperate than the last. But today he sent a long paragraph about how he bought another house and he wanted me to go live with him hours away, that he would treat me well and make me happy. Just pathetic, but this one guy had said something that rubbed me the wrong way back at the beginning, that he would finance my gains through a "disability pension" on my future morbid obesity. Yet he now tells me he bought a house, and if I were to believe him, this would be his third property. But the gains would be on my state pension. I'm sure this is just a desperate guy who doesn't know what he wants and is lying out his ass or being unhinged. Of course, I deleted that message and I won't block him for now, let's see what he brings next.
This is really common. So many feeders do not want to use their resources and expects the feedee to absorb all the risk and expenses. You will hear a lot of (usually female) feedees talk about how a real feeder pays/provides.
Yes, you hear a lot if scammers and users say this, but it originally stems from the experience you just had. Because a real feeder meaningfully contributes to their feedee's gain. The exact manner varies from relationship to relationship, but the feeder can't be a parasite.
