JayDee303:
I intentionally made some dietary changes that led to some unintentional weight loss. I was happy with myself bigger but needed to do it for health reasons which have been successfully mitigated.
I have been bothered by well-intentioned people commenting on my weight loss. The biggest annoyances have been people that vastly overestimate how much weight I lost and people asking probing questions about my diet and exercise habits. Some of if has made me want to fatten myself up out of spite, but instead I have decided to focus on the positives and stay the course.
The positives:
1. My wife has been mostly indifferent to my weight loss and is frustrated by my dietary restrictions. It is comforting as she is the only person outside of myself that I care how they feel about my body and loves me the same when I am smaller and bigger. My diet is mine alone and I don't ask her to go along with me, and if anything, there have been more snacks for her laying around since I am not helping her eat them, of which I am enjoying the results.
2. I have taken opportunities to explicitly state that I liked myself bigger and the weight loss was just a side effect to shut down some of the more anti-fat unsolicited comments.
3. There have been a few people that been able praise my stewardship of my health while lamenting the loss of my former frame and enjoyment of food. I am thankful for their understanding of my choices and separation of the two issues.
4. While I have no intention of purposefully regaining all of the weight I lost, I do have plans to continue to modify my diet and some slight weight gain is expected - both muscle and fat.
Congrats on your health journey. This is a great place to vent about your frustrations cause I think everyone can understand to one degree or another, but like you said, your health comes first. You wouldn’t have done the hard things otherwise.
But we just live in a world where everyone is expected to be proud of themselves when they lose weight and expected to enjoy talking about it endlessly to anyone who asks. In reality, not everyone is thrilled to lose weight for a bunch of different reasons and most people are happy to keep that stuff private even if they are happy with it. Maybe having a few good subject-changers on hand when you bump into people you haven’t seen in a while would be helpful.
