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Destroying my mind

Hello all, I am a married man and my wife knows about my kink. However she refuses to even try it and I have made it last for 4 years however I cannot help but realize I am growing more and more depressed due to the absence of my kink. It has been a main staple of my life since I was young and I am realizing I cannot be without it romantically. Basically I am looking for advice or pretty much anything.
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Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
Hello all, I am a married man and my wife knows about my kink. However she refuses to even try it and I have made it last for 4 years however I cannot help but realize I am growing more and more depressed due to the absence of my kink. It has been a main staple of my life since I was young and I am realizing I cannot be without it romantically. Basically I am looking for advice or pretty much anything.


Have you tried therapy?
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Destroying my mind

We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.
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Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.


Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?
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Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?


Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.
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Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.


Okay... that's not how that works. Does she have a background in sex therapy? Because the science behind fetishes makes it very clear that's not how that works.

I see that your profile says you are a feeder. How were you hoping to engage with you wife concerning this fetish?
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Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.

Munchies:
Okay... that's not how that works. Does she have a background in sex therapy? Because the science behind fetishes makes it very clear that's not how that works.

I see that your profile says you are a feeder. How were you hoping to engage with you wife concerning this fetish?


She is an abnormal phycologist and I just want her to love her weight, be down to even do micro gains, and just sometimes overendulge.
2 weeks

Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.

Munchies:
Okay... that's not how that works. Does she have a background in sex therapy? Because the science behind fetishes makes it very clear that's not how that works.

I see that your profile says you are a feeder. How were you hoping to engage with you wife concerning this fetish?

31BCooter:
She is an abnormal phycologist and I just want her to love her weight, be down to even do micro gains, and just sometimes overendulge.


Oooookay ...

I see why she wants to "cure" you despite how misguided she's being.

Are y'all in marriage counseling?
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Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.

Munchies:
Okay... that's not how that works. Does she have a background in sex therapy? Because the science behind fetishes makes it very clear that's not how that works.

I see that your profile says you are a feeder. How were you hoping to engage with you wife concerning this fetish?

31BCooter:
She is an abnormal phycologist and I just want her to love her weight, be down to even do micro gains, and just sometimes overendulge.

Munchies:
Oooookay ...

I see why she wants to "cure" you despite how misguided she's being.

Are y'all in marriage counseling?


Nope we just moved across the country and still getting settled.
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Destroying my mind

Munchies:
Oooookay ...

I see why she wants to "cure" you despite how misguided she's being.

Are y'all in marriage counseling?

31BCooter:
Nope we just moved across the country and still getting settled.


I'd put getting into marital counseling high on your list of priorities because this is a HOT mess. Neither one of you is handling this in a healthy way.

This doesn't make you bad people, but it is clear that you two cannot fix this on your own. You guys aren't communicating at all.
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