Curiousv:
As a FA, what is your favorite attitude in those who are gaining weight?
1. completely hating weight gain, trying desperately to become thin but failing, being miserable about it, comfort-eating, and inevitably getting fatter.
2. accepting that they will never become skinny, but trying to lose just a little bit of weight, not to become thin but just to be a little bit less obese. Occasional short and half-hearted diets here and there, which are not enough to stop the weight from continuing to pile up.
3. having accepted their fat bodies and being comfortable, just trying to maintain. Like, "OK, if I gain another few pounds I'll start a diet", but after it happens, pushing out the boundary again.
4. not wanting to gain per se, but loving food enough that they accept gaining as a consequence or as a price to be payed. They have no worries about it and they accept the weight gain, being confident with their bodies, but if they could eat more food while magically not gaining weight, they would choose so.
5. actually liking and enjoying the weight gain itself.
6. weight gain becoming the main drive, wanting to get as fat and as fast as possible.
What's it in fantasy, and what's it in reality?
For me, in reality I like 4 and 5 the most (if I had to order them from most to least favorite, it would be 5, 4, 3, 2, 6, 1), and in fantasy it's for someone to go through all the stages from 1 to 6.
I prefer a 5. I need enthusiastic consent to enjoy things. Even the passive consent of a 4 just doesn't do it for me.
On the other side of things, I refuse to deal with a 6. I had one of those as a feedee. Lemme tell ya, it did a number on my psyche.
Never again.
