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Joined 4 years

I dont know how much it will help, but you could try to find some passion, other than food, in order to occupy your mind with it. There are lots of things that might fascinate you! Anything science related. Of course it is a little weird to try to find a passion to serve as a distraction, without some other utilitarian context (like if someone is interested in.. Idk, physics, because they know it will be usefull for one project of theirs) but a good starting point, i think, would be Art and philosophy!

6 months

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Munchies

Joined 3 years

Enas:
I dont know how much it will help, but you could try to find some passion, other than food, in order to occupy your mind with it. There are lots of things that might fascinate you! Anything science related. Of course it is a little weird to try to find a passion to serve as a distraction, without some other utilitarian context (like if someone is interested in.. Idk, physics, because they know it will be usefull for one project of theirs) but a good starting point, i think, would be Art and philosophy!

There is merit to the general idea. Any time you quit a habit, it's good to swap it with something else.

OP is bed bound, so the options are limited. But now would be a good time to throw yourself into hobbies or even pick up new ones.

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HappyBigBelly

Joined 12 years

We’re all pulling for ya. Romy! Mobility and health is most important now.

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SumoSized

Joined 11 months

Hell yeah good for you, I imagine the whiplash will be intense from going from intentionally gaining weight to suddenly losing it. But once you start to get into a system in should only get easier with time. Good luck with your weight loss journey, and hopefully you'll be up and mobile soon enough!

6 months

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Romy

Joined 6 years

God, I didn't think my food addiction was that big.
I have a lot of anxiety and I can't wait to eat delicious things.
My husband is inflexible about my diet, but I already cheated, I have my nurse and my niece.
Yesterday I asked my nurse to let me have a hamburger and then a chocolate cake. Today I asked my niece to bring me fried chicken with potatoes and 5 bars of chocolate.
The problem is that my husband doesn't know this and if he finds out my nurse could have problems.
The truth is I'm starving and I have a serious anxiety problem. My nurse didn't do things voluntarily, I basically ordered her to do them.
I broke my diet but it was necessary to calm down a little.

6 months

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Munchies

Joined 3 years

Romy:
God, I didn't think my food addiction was that big.
I have a lot of anxiety and I can't wait to eat delicious things.
My husband is inflexible about my diet, but I already cheated, I have my nurse and my niece.
Yesterday I asked my nurse to let me have a hamburger and then a chocolate cake. Today I asked my niece to bring me fried chicken with potatoes and 5 bars of chocolate.
The problem is that my husband doesn't know this and if he finds out my nurse could have problems.
The truth is I'm starving and I have a serious anxiety problem. My nurse didn't do things voluntarily, I basically ordered her to do them.
I broke my diet but it was necessary to calm down a little.

The struggle is real. I don't think anyone here will think less of you for being weak. But overcoming food addictions is more than just willpower.

I can't force you to be honest with your husband about your struggles, but we both know you need to be honest with him.

Do you have any additional support besides your husband? Are you familiar with the resources in your area?

I don't know what country you are in, but there are helplines, support groups, one-on-one help from experts, etc. I'd look into it.

6 months

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Romy

Joined 6 years

Romy:
God, I didn't think my food addiction was that big.
I have a lot of anxiety and I can't wait to eat delicious things.
My husband is inflexible about my diet, but I already cheated, I have my nurse and my niece.
Yesterday I asked my nurse to let me have a hamburger and then a chocolate cake. Today I asked my niece to bring me fried chicken with potatoes and 5 bars of chocolate.
The problem is that my husband doesn't know this and if he finds out my nurse could have problems.
The truth is I'm starving and I have a serious anxiety problem. My nurse didn't do things voluntarily, I basically ordered her to do them.
I broke my diet but it was necessary to calm down a little.

Munchies:
The struggle is real. I don't think anyone here will think less of you for being weak. But overcoming food addictions is more than just willpower.

I can't force you to be honest with your husband about your struggles, but we both know you need to be honest with him.

Do you have any additional support besides your husband? Are you familiar with the resources in your area?

I don't know what country you are in, but there are helplines, support groups, one-on-one help from experts, etc. I'd look into it.

I am undergoing treatment and they even gave me medication to control anxiety and I also resumed physical therapy. Eating secretly is difficult in bed, but when I can eat something delicious I do it.
My niece is going to bring me 2 triple hamburgers this afternoon.
I know I shouldn't eat those things but how do I resist the temptation? Anyway, I'm eating less than before and I'm going to lose some weight.

6 months

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Munchies

Joined 3 years

Romy:
God, I didn't think my food addiction was that big.
I have a lot of anxiety and I can't wait to eat delicious things.
My husband is inflexible about my diet, but I already cheated, I have my nurse and my niece.
Yesterday I asked my nurse to let me have a hamburger and then a chocolate cake. Today I asked my niece to bring me fried chicken with potatoes and 5 bars of chocolate.
The problem is that my husband doesn't know this and if he finds out my nurse could have problems.
The truth is I'm starving and I have a serious anxiety problem. My nurse didn't do things voluntarily, I basically ordered her to do them.
I broke my diet but it was necessary to calm down a little.

Munchies:
The struggle is real. I don't think anyone here will think less of you for being weak. But overcoming food addictions is more than just willpower.

I can't force you to be honest with your husband about your struggles, but we both know you need to be honest with him.

Do you have any additional support besides your husband? Are you familiar with the resources in your area?

I don't know what country you are in, but there are helplines, support groups, one-on-one help from experts, etc. I'd look into it.

Romy:
I am undergoing treatment and they even gave me medication to control anxiety and I also resumed physical therapy. Eating secretly is difficult in bed, but when I can eat something delicious I do it.
My niece is going to bring me 2 triple hamburgers this afternoon.
I know I shouldn't eat those things but how do I resist the temptation? Anyway, I'm eating less than before and I'm going to lose some weight.

Okay, love. Just don't sabatoge yourself. And don't put your niece in a situation she doesn't need to be in - like thinking it's her fault when something happens or your husband inevitably finds out.

Because he will.

I am not shaming you for your addictions, but we both know your niece deserves better.

6 months

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Romy

Joined 6 years

My diet is a total failure. I binge eat secretly from my husband and ultimately he knows it because the scale doesn't lie.
My nurse was condemned to fight with me because I didn't give me food and with my husband for providing it.
My husband is tired of dealing with me and decided to leave everything in my hands.
When I want to eat no one tells me anything. Now the diet is in my hands.
This is a disaster. I start crying while binge eating, but I can't stop ordering fast food and swallowing like a pig.
My physical therapist came to my house and I was eating hamburgers. The look on that guy's face was atrocious and I imagine he only thought "I get paid to do my job and keep my schedule."
I feel like no one helps me and they left me alone to my own devices, but I don't make the slightest effort either and I can't help it either, because the desire to eat is so strong that I end up eating everything on my table.

5 months

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Weetabix

Joined 10 years

Make choices you can stick to and want to stick to. Accept the consequences of your decision. Make it your decision rather than feel like you have no control.

So either you decide to do what you need to do to stop your weight gain and slowly get fitter OR you decide that you love eating more than anything else and you've accepted that the price is compromised health and a shorter life.

People make life and death choices every day, like the man who chooses to become a soldier. That comes with some honour, at least until he gets shot and injured, then he's just a burden on the state and becomes homeless. Harsh but if you talk to a former soldier you'll know that's what happens to many of them.

Your dangerous choice is no where near as bad as the consequences of some people's choices.

So rather than fight what you clearly want, decide that it's what you want and you're adult about the consequences.

I hope that helps you figure this out.

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