Shangrila:
I'll start by giving the obligatory please make sure to prioritize safety, consent, and clear communication.
That said, these are the tips I've found to be helpful:
1. You've made your first good step by joining FantasyFeeder
2. Add Social Media Groups: Look for groups on Reddit (e.g., r/Feederism), Tumblr, or Facebook where folks are discussing feederism
3. Remember To Be Clear About Your Intentions
When engaging with potential feeders, be upfront about what you're looking for. Whether it's a romantic relationship, a casual dynamic, or just someone to share your interests with, clear communication is key.
4. Again, Prioritize Safety and Consent
Consent: Ensure that any interaction is based on mutual consent and respect. Discuss boundaries, limits, and expectations early on.
5. Look for Compatibility
Finding someone who shares your specific preferences is important. Discuss your goals to ensure you're on the same page.
6. Attend Events or Meetups
These can be a great way to meet potential feeders in a safe and social setting.
7. Use Dating Apps
Use dating apps that allow you to specify your feederism interests. Mention your interests in your profile
8. Build Trust Over Time
Take your time getting to know each other. Trust is essential, especially in a dynamic that involves physical and emotional vulnerability.
9. Respect Boundaries
Respect others' boundaries and be prepared for rejection. The right person will appreciate your honesty and shared interests.
Good luck!
All of these are very good. However, I do want to add some things that are specific to OPs situation.
According to your Bio, you are a pre-transition trans woman. However, your gender listed is male. I'd twitch that to trans woman.
Another thing to keep in mind is that female feeders tend to be very skittish. We all have a thousand and one different horror stories. But lesbians and other wlw are especially skittish. You will need to be patient.
Lastly, you will run into some women that will ask you if you are really trans. Please do not take offense. There are cis men out there who pretend to be pre-transition trans women in hopes of scoring a lesbian. It's weird and no one likes those guys.
