General

Arame:
So, what I’ve observed back when social media was still in its infancy is the misogynistic double standards when it comes to being fat. We’ve it propagated in media for over 30 years how it’s acceptable to be fat as a man but not as a woman. Shows like Family Matters, Fresh Prince of Bel Air, King of Queens etc. where the husbands is fat but the wife is the bombshell.

And we can even look at music, same kind of thing. Biggie Smalls/Notorious B.I.G, Heavy D, Big Pun, Fat Joe, The Fat Boys etc. Why am I mentioning them, you may ask?

Because it’s mighty funny how when Lizzo showed confidence and being unapologetic about her weight, she was “promoting obesity”
But when make rappers literally base their rap persona off of being fat, they was considered the GOATS of their genre.

Lizzo, literally got bullied into losing weight but meanwhile, current rapper T. Grizzly faces zero criticism.


Body positivity and fat acceptance ONLY became an issue when women began to show confidence in themselves instead of feeling sorry for themselves.


Did I forget to mention that Big Pun and Heavy D literally died for being obese and yet to this day are praised for their music but again Lizzo was bullied into a weight loss journey? So she was promoting obesity but they weren’t? When they literally died from being obese??? Smh it’s infuriating

Arame:
Did I forget to mention that Big Pun and Heavy D literally died from being obese and yet to this day are praised for their music but again Lizzo was bullied into a weight loss journey? So she was promoting obesity but they weren’t? When they literally died from being obese??? Smh it’s infuriating

Arame:
Did I forget to mention that Big Pun and Heavy D literally died from being obese and yet to this day are praised for their music but again Lizzo was bullied into a weight loss journey? So she was promoting obesity but they weren’t? When they literally died from being obese??? Smh it’s infuriating

JN_TumLover56:
Interesting take on this topic, very valid points. But with Lizzo’s case her reputation has already been skewed by the allegations of her body shaming her own backup dancers, then with the weight loss then people got bad because of the somewhat hypocrisy.

I have also seen a similar story with Adele when she lost the weight even with being a voice towards being a positive influence for being more curvier at the time.

And I can see why because they try to preach about embracing imperfections and saying to not worry about changing to be skinny to met societal standards… and then when they lose the weight; that’s when people be like “WTF I thought you were confident?”. It seems like it’s a lot more tricky when it comes to balancing being an inspiration to plus size people and not getting carried away from negating your wellbeing. A little something that Olivasworld95 talked about from her weight loss video.

Arame:
Did I forget to mention that Big Pun and Heavy D literally died from being obese and yet to this day are praised for their music but again Lizzo was bullied into a weight loss journey? So she was promoting obesity but they weren’t? When they literally died from being obese??? Smh it’s infuriating

JN_TumLover56:
Interesting take on this topic, very valid points. But with Lizzo’s case her reputation has already been skewed by the allegations of her body shaming her own backup dancers, then with the weight loss then people got bad because of the somewhat hypocrisy.

I have also seen a similar story with Adele when she lost the weight even with being a voice towards being a positive influence for being more curvier at the time.

And I can see why because they try to preach about embracing imperfections and saying to not worry about changing to be skinny to met societal standards… and then when they lose the weight; that’s when people be like “WTF I thought you were confident?”. It seems like it’s a lot more tricky when it comes to balancing being an inspiration to plus size people and not getting carried away from negating your wellbeing. A little something that Olivasworld95 talked about from her weight loss video.

Munchies:
Actually, Lizzo's body shaming pre-dates her getting outed for being gross. There's intersections of marginalizations that make some people's fatness more valid than others.

Arame:
Did I forget to mention that Big Pun and Heavy D literally died from being obese and yet to this day are praised for their music but again Lizzo was bullied into a weight loss journey? So she was promoting obesity but they weren’t? When they literally died from being obese??? Smh it’s infuriating

JN_TumLover56:
Interesting take on this topic, very valid points. But with Lizzo’s case her reputation has already been skewed by the allegations of her body shaming her own backup dancers, then with the weight loss then people got bad because of the somewhat hypocrisy.

I have also seen a similar story with Adele when she lost the weight even with being a voice towards being a positive influence for being more curvier at the time.

And I can see why because they try to preach about embracing imperfections and saying to not worry about changing to be skinny to met societal standards… and then when they lose the weight; that’s when people be like “WTF I thought you were confident?”. It seems like it’s a lot more tricky when it comes to balancing being an inspiration to plus size people and not getting carried away from negating your wellbeing. A little something that Olivasworld95 talked about from her weight loss video.

Arame:
Did I forget to mention that Big Pun and Heavy D literally died from being obese and yet to this day are praised for their music but again Lizzo was bullied into a weight loss journey? So she was promoting obesity but they weren’t? When they literally died from being obese??? Smh it’s infuriating

JN_TumLover56:
Interesting take on this topic, very valid points. But with Lizzo’s case her reputation has already been skewed by the allegations of her body shaming her own backup dancers, then with the weight loss then people got bad because of the somewhat hypocrisy.

I have also seen a similar story with Adele when she lost the weight even with being a voice towards being a positive influence for being more curvier at the time.

And I can see why because they try to preach about embracing imperfections and saying to not worry about changing to be skinny to met societal standards… and then when they lose the weight; that’s when people be like “WTF I thought you were confident?”. It seems like it’s a lot more tricky when it comes to balancing being an inspiration to plus size people and not getting carried away from negating your wellbeing. A little something that Olivasworld95 talked about from her weight loss video.

Arame:
Actually, Lizzo was being body shamed years before the allegations. Mind you, those are allegations, there’s no proof she actually did anything of those things. It’s so bad that comedian, Corey Holcomb, a fat guy himself constantly ridicules Lizzo for her weight claiming any man that’s with her is “settling”

Misterelephant88:
I think it is because of the standards of today's world, unfortunately obesity is still a minority (although every year it increases more and more) and who sets the standards are those who lead the great elites, fashion, companies dedicated to dietary products and much more, people see fat people as lazy, without self-esteem (which I do not agree) is a stigma that will take many years to leave the minds of people.

Ditzy:
I think people share too much about themselves and their fetishes online.
Doing videos because they desire attention or validation.
I never felt I needed validation from strangers to do anything in my life.
I think perhaps the BP movement has a subset of people that push too hard to make us all look like weirdos.
Social media is not always a good place to aire your laundry.

I do support the BP movement and learning how to love yourself no matter how large or small you are.

Ditzy:
I think people share too much about themselves and their fetishes online.
Doing videos because they desire attention or validation.
I never felt I needed validation from strangers to do anything in my life.
I think perhaps the BP movement has a subset of people that push too hard to make us all look like weirdos.
Social media is not always a good place to aire your laundry.

I do support the BP movement and learning how to love yourself no matter how large or small you are.

Arame:
Now, this I can agree with as well. Everything doesn’t have to be public or mainstream. What you like doing in the bedroom ain’t nobody else’s business except you and the person you’re in bed with. Or communities like this where people can find their other half but that’s it. Stop posting everything on line all the time

Ditzy:
I think people share too much about themselves and their fetishes online.
Doing videos because they desire attention or validation.
I never felt I needed validation from strangers to do anything in my life.
I think perhaps the BP movement has a subset of people that push too hard to make us all look like weirdos.
Social media is not always a good place to aire your laundry.

Arame:
Now, this I can agree with as well. Everything doesn’t have to be public or mainstream. What you like doing in the bedroom ain’t nobody else’s business except you and the person you’re in bed with. Or communities like this where people can find their other half but that’s it. Stop posting everything on line all the time

Munchies:
Too many people forget that the internet isn't a personal journal with just you and your close, personal friends. Lotta people have had their lives ruined because of stupid stuff they posted online.